I have been talking to this girl recently and we hooked up the other night but after the foreplay we went to penetration and I could tell it was hurting even before she said anything so I stopped. Eventually we both had gotten off to each others foreplay but it was kind of an awkward aftermath. Today she was talking to me about how she really wanted to actually have penetration but she’s never had this big and doesn’t know what to do to prepare for it. Does anyone have any tips?
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Try r/bigdickproblems …
Warm her up for a long time. Listen to her. Try lube. I gurentee she’ll be in love with in way later on tho. It’s a pretty unique problem to have. But you have your needs and sex is apart of a healthy relationship. Use your best judgment on it and good luck.
I’m not an expert, but I’ve had this experience once or twice in the past. I’ll give a few unordered thoughts:
– One of my tighter partners preferred to start on top so she could control the pace of entry.
– It may be warm-up related. You could try drawing out foreplay, talking about turn-ons, and deepening your level of comfort with each-other. I’d recommend [She Comes First](https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First/dp/B08Z49YCQR/ref=asc_df_B08Z49YCQR?tag=bngsmtphsnus-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=80127031073103&hvnetw=s&hvqmt=e&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=&hvtargid=pla-4583726556954102&psc=1) as a good source of ideas.
– While I’m aware there are medical techniques for loosening the vagina which involve practicing inserting progressively larger dildos over time, I’d hesitate to tell this person “hey, you should seek professional help so you can handle my massive dong.” Might not go over well, but I don’t know your relationship.
Stretch her out and make her like she was meant for you.
Go down on her first
Once she’s ready for you, go in and then stay still until she relaxes and is comfortable
It’s possible it will always hurt her. You can use lube and foreplay, but you might still tear her, if you are too thick. If you are too long you can use a bumper, but if you are too thick there’s not much to be done. I have had this issue myself more than once and simply had to break things off with the guy.
I can relate from a girls point of view. We are all built differently and whereas a guy might have a long dick us girls don’t always have the deepest vaginas. Personally I struggle with anyone over 8” in length so I need to take it slowly. I tend to prefer riding in that case so I can lower myself and control how deep he goes. If he is really thick then that a different issue. I’m quite a small girl so with thick cocks I need lots of foreplay and relaxing. I find the more I get the more I relax down there. Lube works but it’s not a matter of just forcing it in. The reality is though that everyone is different and so sex is different each time. Best bet is to find out what works for you and experimenting. I’m pretty sure that as she relaxes she will enjoy you lots. X