I don’t know if ‘self-conscious’ is the right word, I don’t really know how to explain it fully. I have a crush on my best friend for 7 months. I recently confessed to her too. I feel very self-conscious when I do things for her like carrying her things for her, or giving a compliment, or consoling her. It’s just that I do those things and after some time I’ll think it’s a bit cringy (?) I don’t know if that’s the word to describe it, but I feel some weird way. Has anyone else ever experienced this before? I really want to do more things for her, but I can’t because of this.
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Everyone feels like this. “She won’t like me if X happens.” “She won’t like me if I do X.” It just comes with crushing. Gals get nervous like this in front of me like this all the time lol. If she likes you, she cares a lot less than you do.
You’re burying the lead. After you confessed your feelings she either was receptive or she wasn’t. Is she wasn’t feeling the same way then she is either
a) keeping you around as fan (someone to stroke her ego)
b) keeping you around as option (in case the guy she likes isn’t into her you’ll do until someone better comes along)
c) she doesn’t know how to tell you go away and has pity for you
d) she still wants keep you as friend
Its highly unlikely its d) but if it you need to stop trying do things for her. Do not do anything for her you wouldn’t do for a guy friend.
My advice be a man and have discussion with her. Do not become her new gay best friend.
You want her and she either wants you or she doesn’t. Do not let yourself be used by a girl.
If she and you are not on the same page you need to move on. Do not let one-itis ruin your life.