how do you work through abandonment issues/triggers while being in a relationship?

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1. Think of it this way. A relationship can only go one of two ways. You get married, or you break up. This is the reality of it.

   So in the end, you probably know the chances of how things go.

   This doesn’t mean the relationship isn’t worth the time.

   Enjoy it and relish in the moments you can share. Just have fun loving.

   Life is the same way. We can keep worrying about death or you can choose to live.

   You can worry about the relationship or you can choose to love.

   It’s really up to you.

2. Therapy

3. Let’s say you love boxed chocolates, especially the cream filled kind. The solid chocolates and the ones with nuts are….OK. Not great but not terrible, either. You absolutely despise the ones with coconut in the center.

   So, when you get a box of candy, you taste each one to figure out what’s inside. You get a lot of ‘meh’ chocolates that way, but it’s worth the effort because, whenever you find a cream filled one, it’s sooo delicious.

   Unfortunately, this means you also occasionally get a coconut center. Gross! You *hate* those! Gotta brush your teeth just to get rid of the taste.

   But this doesn’t mean you stop eating chocolates alltogether. Why? Because the cream fiĺled ones are sooo wonderfully delicious that it’s worth all the going through aĺl the others to get to them.

   You don’t stop eating chocolates. No way. It’s worth going through the mediocre chocolates and even the yucky coconut ones to get to the good stuff.