Hi. im 18 and me and my girlfriend had decided to have sex. both of us are virgins.we had everything ready. we did tons of foreplay and i was hard too. both of us were in the mood. the condom was near me but as soon as i started wearing it, i started to lose my erection. even after more foreplay with the condom on, i didnt get hard properly again. both of us were disappointed. the same day i searced why this happened on the internet and decided to follow it. me and my girlfriend decided to have sex again. today when we tried, i made sure the condom was right next to me. while i was opening the condom packet, she was giving me a blowjob so that i dont lose the moment. i asked her to put on the condom for me but again as soon as i started wearing the condom, my erection went away. and it killed the mood again. its not that i dont get hard. everything is fine until the condom is involved. both of us are sure that we only want to practice safe sex. any advice or tip that would help me in thsi case would be appreciated. thanks
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Probably four things.
1. Anxiety.
2. Poor condom fit.
3. Lack of stimulation and/or sensation.
4. The unfamiliar feeling of a condom.
Try using them when you jerk off to become more comfortable with them.
You might need a larger size if they are too tight.
Anxiety is the tough one and lowering your expectations about what will happen can help. Anxiety around sex is also a complete it explains the whole phenomena alone too. It is also very common.
Anxiety for sure. It has happened to me on many occasions.
Even with her doing a BJ you still have to concentrate. Try checking the fit while masturbating, and in person see about closing your eyes and having her put it on.
Definitely check the condom sizing. Measure your penis properly and then check the manufacturer’s guidance on sizing. Even the smallest bit of performance anxiety when coupled with a really tight condom can kill your erection. Getting used to the feel of a condom during sexual activities is also a good idea.