I (33M) was casually seeing someone (29F) and it got to a point where she decided that we weren’t going to work out long term, but she enjoyed hooking up, so we kept a FWB thing going for about 3 months after the fact, seeing each other probably once every 1-2 weeks. And it made sense, honestly, as we were incompatible, but for whatever reason my ego still took a hit. Last week she called me to say she started seeing someone. Logically, I’m happy for her because she deserves the world and to be happy, even if I can’t be the one to do it. But now that we’ve arrived to this point, I can’t help but feel like I’m lacking and that even though i knew it had to come to an end, the idea of her choosing someone over me does hurt a bit. It’s definitely very selfish, but I just want to be able to not feel like I’m less than. I’ve been talking to other women but for whatever reason I’m not very enthused because in the back of my mind I’m just thinking the next woman is going to also just break it off and choose someone besides me.
TLDR: FWB cut things off for a relationship, and it hurt my ego. How can I work through these feelings and not feel inferior and hurt so much.
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She couldn’t have a relationship with you, but she probably wanted a relationship. Everything isn’t about you.
Sometimes poeple aren’t compatible for a relationship even though you like the person. I’m going through something similar right now and it sucks. Just takes time. Focus on yourself and do things that make you happy. Set goals and work towards them. You’ll find the right person when you least expect it.