TL;DR: For the past 6 months my sister has become distant, last few months she’s been stressed with dissertation, she’s due to hand it in this week, so I’m hoping she will go back to normal however even before she started panicking about her dissertation she was acting wierd
We use to see each other 5 times a week, I now see her once every fortnight, I use to be able to turn up to her house, and she did the same with me but now she doesn’t invite me into her house
Today I went to drop off her husbands laptop charger (we work together and he lent it to me as mine broke) she refused to make any eye contact and was very cold and distant
Some thing have happen over the past 6 months
1. I bought a house, she asked to move into our new home, but we said no as they have a dog and my husband is allergic, after I told her she seemed fine but slowly she became obsessed at wanting to but a house when she hasn’t got saving, obvs this means realistically she can’t buy a house YET and that she needs to save for a deposit like we have
2. She asked me to write part of her dissertation, I said no, I said no as 1. I don’t know how to write academically, I don’t know anything about her degree psychology, and finally I work full time in a very busy and stressful job and I could bear the idea of trying to do it. I also felt it was her dissertation not mine
She’s my twin and she’s everything to me, I’ve tried everything, I’ve tried being distant back, it’s breaking my heart, it’s killing me, she hates me and I don’t even know if its because of what I’ve said above, I just don’t know that’s the worst part
I confronted her about the distance once and she blocked me, on everything I had to email her and apologise
She is clearly going through mental health issue too
Please don’t hate on my sister, please give me advice on how to get her back. Her dissertation finishes this week and I’m so scared she won’t go back to normal, I just want my best friend back, I don’t have friends, I don’t have any other family, it’s just us two, and our husbands, my parents live abroad, I have no one, I need her please tell me how to deal with this
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Maybe her husband is being abusive
I mean, you answered your own question. She’s mad at you about not letting her move in and not writing part of her dissertation. Though, I think both are unreasonable things for her to have asked for.
Just give it time. Things must be different with twins because I couldn’t stand seeing ANY of my family, who believe it or not, I do love dearly, 5 times a week.
Asking to move into your home is a very weird thing to just come out and ask unless they are having financial troubles? Similarly asking you to write her dissertation is a strange thing to ask. You mention mental health issues, could she be depressed? My advice would be to keep maintaining some sort of contact to let her know you’re still there for her but let her have her space for now