I (18M) lost my virginity to my wonderful girlfriend (18F) just a few hours ago. She was amazing and I did far better than expected. She has some experience, so I was a bit nervous, but she assured me I did alright. I lasted far linger than I thought. I did try to go a second round, but for whatever reason I kept slipping out and we were having a hard time getting it back in. I started to get in my head and had a hard time keeping it up. Overall, amazing experience, but I wish I could’ve gone until she finished.
Another thing I want to mention is that she was unsure about the idea of me giving her head. I backed off as soon as I saw the idea made her nervous, but I asked about it after. She said she had never received head before, and since I had no clue what I was doing, she wasn’t sure how well it would go. I told her I understood, but that one day we should try it, since it would be the only way to learn. Any pointers regarding this?
Edit: First of all, I want to mention she also shut down the idea of fingering her or anything like that when I offered yesterday. On a different note, today, we were making out and I put my hand in her thigh, then she guided my hand towards her vagina. I had no protection with me so we didn’t have sex, but I did get to return the favor she provided for me yesterday. She didn’t finish, but she was still fully clothed so I don’t know how good of an idea it would be to get to that point anyways. Regardless, its a step forward, and I am glad to have done it. I am glad she trusted me to do it, and felt comfortable with it.
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Congrats. Little tip for you: try and make her finish during foreplay. My husband makes me cum before we have sex as I struggle to finish from penetration alone. That way I’m satisfied whenever he finishes. With the oral thing make sure you listen to the signals she gives you while you are down there. Hubby is mind blowing at oral but that’s because he responds to my breathing, moans and movement.
Spend time with fore play. I perform oral on my wife before entering her. After fore play, caress and kiss your way down there. Recommend that you Google best source for learning female cunnilingus. There are several hits that should get you started. The main thing since her first time is take it slow. Pay attention to her responses as to what feels good. Then when ready time to go for her clit. You want her to have an orgasm before sex. When she wants you to stop, of course stop as it is getting to be too much for her if she is hyperventilating and what not. You are very mature for your age in wanting her to have an orgasm. Once she experienced an orgasm this way from you, she will realize that she has been missing.
Congratulations! Sounds like a good time – happy for you!
You did well in giving her some space when she felt uncomfortable. What you’ll find (especially when pleasing her) is that communication is key. It sounds like you two are good at communicating, so keep that up and respect each others wants and needs. Remember it should be fun for the both of you!
Here, you might find this helpful (point 2 might also be quite significant in why she didn’t want you to eat her out. Women tend to be very self-conscious of how their pussies look/smell/feel etc. so having someone so near can be anxiety provoking)
Rules of Sex:
-The G-spot is located 2-3 inches inside and upwards towards the belly-button. Slide your fingers inside, make an upwards, rubbing “come here” gesture with them, and a soft bump should tell you where the g-spot is.
-Women are generally insecure/anxious about how their breasts and vagina look. Complimenting those helps to relax them and let’s them enjoy themselves more.
-Women enjoy knowing they’re making you feel good. Moans, groans and grunts while you fuck them help with that. Every single time you slide into a woman’s pussy should be accompanied with a deep moan.
-The more you turn her on and build up her arousal beforehand (edging) the longer and stronger her orgasm will be.
-Pulling a woman’s hair from the edges is painful, pulling it nearer the scalp is more manageable pain wise.
-Dirty talk can vary based on the woman. Some women like to be praised (e.g “your pussy feels so good squeezing my cock”), some like to be degraded (e.g “take it like the little cock-hungry slut you are”) and some like a mixture (eg “you’re such a good little slut, taking my cock all the way like this)”. It’s worth asking beforehand which one she would enjoy most.
-Kissing a woman’s neck feels amazing for her, but only with wet lips. Run your tongue along your lips to wet them first before kissing her.
-Be gentle when rubbing her clit. Too much pressure feels uncomfortable and can turn her off.
-Don’t neglect her pussy lips, they’re also sensitive and rubbing, stroking and licking them can feel amazing for her
-The undersides of a woman’s tits can be very sensitive, and again, get neglected too often. Rub, kiss and lick them in addition to the nipple play.
-Her inners thighs are extremely sensitive, licking them is a great way to tease her and get her worked up before licking her out.
-When licking her out, using the flat of your tongue is better than just the tip. With the wider flat of your tongue, your tongue touches more of her pussy with each lick and spreads the sensation over a wider area
-Rubbing your shaft against her pussy can feel good too.
-Wet your fingers in your mouth first before stroking/rubbing/fingering etc. As a rule, dry fingers generally don’t feel as good as wet fingers
-If she’s about to cum, don’t stop what you’re doing while she does, and don’t change the pace, keep going exactly as you are through her orgasm.
-In missionary, placing a cushion under a woman’s ass tilts it upwards, and the angle allows your cock to hit her g-spot on every thrust.
-In doggy, reaching under her with a hand and rubbing her clit as you fuck get will drive her crazy.
Congratulations!
Communication is everything.
Congratulations on your first time! It’s completely normal to have a mixture of nerves and excitement, especially if one partner has more experience than the other. It’s great that you were able to communicate and make each other feel comfortable during the experience. As for oral sex, it’s important to remember that it’s a intimate and personal act that everyone may feel differently about. Some people love it, while others prefer not to participate in it, and that’s completely okay.
Communication is key here, so make sure to talk to your girlfriend about what she’s comfortable with and what she’s not. Also, be open to feedback during the act and adjust accordingly. It’s important to take it slow and use your hands and tongue to explore and find what feels good for her. Above all, make sure both of you are having a good time and enjoying the experience.
Hey, congrats dude! As for your question regarding giving her oral, it was great from your part to wait a little bit if she was unsure, if you want to go ahead with it and she agrees, there’s plenty of fantastic advice all over this subreddit regarding the topic if you want detailed tips on how to eat pussy, but I’ll give you some basics.
You should be quite reassuring with it in general, telling her how great her vulva looks, tastes and smells through out. Be quite sensual and slow with lots of kissing her body and thighs right before, teasing is always fun. Once you actually get to her pussy, you should be very gentle and kind of lick and kiss around her labia before getting to her clit. The most important thing is to listen closely to her body, her breathing and the things she tells you. Adjust the shape of your tongue, the pressure and the pace depending on those factors. You can insert a finger or two into her vagina if she’s into that, use some lube on your fingers to rub her g-spot (A sponge like surface a few cm in, on the roof of her vagina) while you lick her.
Whatever you do, if she tells you to not stop, do not stop ! Don’t change anything of what you’re doing.
These are the basics and general recommendations. Like I said, on this subreddit there are more detailed guides on specific aspects of pussy eating, like tongue positions, where to put your hands, using dildos/vibes/other toys along with licking, cases of women disliking certain motions and alternatives to those (like people with sensitive clits), among other things. Enjoy yourself and your relationship!
My man you are already on the right path of communicating with her about what you both want and things you want to try together. Well done man
Congratulations on losing your virginity! The first time can always be a bit nerve-racking and a bit awkward, just like your partner’s first time with oral! My advice is to just take it slow and let your instincts take over, the best thing you can do is listen and respond to how she feels – making her feel as comfortable and relaxed as possible. Exploring down for the first time can be A LOT of fun, esp when you both don’t know what to expect. It’s a way of being very intimate with each other. You could both try 69-ing, which may distract you both away from the awkwardness, as you both will have your hands (and mouths) full haha
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Bro when my brother lost his V card at 16, motherfucker walks his girl out and sits down at the dinner table with the rest of the fam and says “today I became a man, I had sex” needless to say both my parents spit out their food shocked. It was awkward but so funny.
Awesome quick start guide. You have done the community a service.
Aww! Congratulations!! You guys might consider subscribing to OMGYes….super good info for pleasing vulva owners….good for anyone looking to have fun with one.
Long story short—every vulva owner is a bit different in what they like so the biggest advice is to keep communicating and not take anything too seriously/personally if it doesn’t “hit the spot”.
There’s a pretty big mental game in there too…if I’m in my head, no matter what is happening down there, not much is going to work for me. My partner is very skilled with it and all his magic in the world won’t make me budge if I can’t get outta my head into my body.
So, no pressure…be patient….it won’t happen quickly….just take your time and have fun and experiment with no expectations other than to communicate.
That’s my boy
There’s a video of Nina Hartley and Sunny Lane that gives good pointers. 🙂 you can watch it with your gf!
First was losing your virginity what you expected. And secondly practice makes perfect
Nice work bro
Huzzah! May it be the first of many times!
i lost mine in the back of a jeep, I don’t like it he had no condom on and jsut went in no lube or anything