As the title suggests, recently I’ve been having some trouble. I am basically unable to maintain an erection during sex with my girlfriend. I have a few thoughts in mind, just below, but im really just hoping someone here could share a similar experience, tips, or just guide me to some sort of medical professional unless just a general PCP can help.
1. I am a bit overweight, i drink a little on weekends, and im generally not high stress, at least i dont think so.
2. I am fine with blowjobs and handjobs, but i just CANT keep an erection during sex without a break, and have not finished via PIV to date. We use a condom, which i never did with past partners, so maybe its a sensation thing?
3. I feel like, in the past few months, i have not gotten as aroused as i usually am. I have not gotten as many erections and have reduced my porn intake and masturbation just cause i dont feel like doing it, which is also concerning to me.
4. I sometimes get performance anxiety, in the line of “am i doing enough? What if i cum too fast? Is she enjoying this?”, but have combated it quite well since my partner just likes to have fun without a goal, which puts me at ease.
So, knowing this, what could it be? Depression/anxiety? Something deeper? Should i see some sort of doctor? I can elaborate in the comments if there are questions. Thanks!
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See a doctor. They can run some test, on your testosterone..etc.
There are always pills that can help out.
I’m sure the condoms are not helping your situation.. but one thing you could consider, is eating better and drinking less if possible? You’ll feel physically better and as a happy side effect, more sexual.
Best of luck!
Go to your PCP, they can treat this or refer you to someone who can.
In the case that it could be condoms I have the following comments.
If both of you are std free try lambskin condoms (they prevent pregnancy but offer NO protection from std). They feel much closer to no condom than latex ones do. How thick is your hog? You might not have appropriately sized condoms. An overly tight condom is gonna null your sensation. My dumbass 20s self didn’t know condoms come in many varieties and just bought whatever and had the sensation severely limited as a result.
As far as number 4 goes, lick it then stick it. If you’re worried you’re not giving her pleasure separate the two acts. Get her off first, focus entirely on her pleasure. Most women cannot have an orgasm from piv alone and need clitoral stimulation. You can also use dildos on her while you’re licking to make her orgasms extremely powerful.