I’m 22f, still a virgin (I have issues with building any relationship, friendship, romance, even a small talk with a colleague is difficult for me). So, I masturbate from time to time, and I have orgasms, and it’s nice, but nothing special. Like, it doesn’t give more pleasure than to reread your favourite book, to watch a good movie, to eat something delicious or any other positive experience. Is it supposed to be like that or with a partner it could be something more intense? Or it’s too individual? How is it supposed to be?😅
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I’m not really sure what you mean magical. I don’t get wings and turn into a fairy or anything after lol but it does feel amazing and it definitely reduces my stress and puts me in a good mood. Something I didn’t realize until I was like into my 20s is that I could have multiple orgasms and the more that I have the stronger that they are at the better the orgasm as I used to just be like one time and then that was it until I read an article about how your clitoris can become more sensitive and have unlimited orgasms. It definitely helps to read something sexual or to watch a sexy video for me because I’m very visual. You could also try getting some toys because I remember the first time I tried my rose vibrator that was like the hardest I had orgasmed up to that point in my life. Fingers are great but toys can take it next level and maybe give you that magical feeling that you’re looking for
There is no supposed to. It is what it is, especially for women.
If your contractions feel weak and/or disorganized, you can add in regular kegel exercises to strengthen your pelvic floor. Stronger muscles tend to produce stronger orgasms. If you’re unsatisfactory with yours, possibly experiment with toys like vibrators and clit suckers.
You may also be on the asexual spectrum. You might consider reading Angela Chen’s book Ace and see if it doesn’t describe some of your experiences.
If you’re on any meds, like an SSRI or for blood pressure those are known to interfere. You can talk to your physician about changing them.
Its really hard to say, because orgasms are impossible to describe or compare xD
Sometimes orgasm can just be statisfying, but not really special. Just like you are eating something when you are hungry. Sometimes orgasms can be magical when you are really horny and you extend the masturbation a lot.
But maybe, for some people orgasms are just not that much of a firework in their head 🙂 Its just like some people dont feel super statisfied after doing sports.