23M I have coworkers that I share everything with, will call on the phone to vent to or confide in from time to time, or ask to hang. They always answer and even apologize in person if they don’t answer a call or text. And to me they mean a lot. But I can’t help but feel the friendship is one sided. Why do they never call me, or confide in me with their struggles? Why do they not share everything with me? Why do they never reach out first or try to make plans with me? I can’t help but feel I’m reading too much into it, but at the same time I feel a little hurt when I think about it or look back at interactions. They’re always there for me but at the same time it feels unreciprocated.
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You are treating them as friends and they are treating you like an acquaintance.
So there are three ways you can go from here. 1) Status quo. You value the relationship more than they do. 2) Get to know them better. That means inviting them to do things one-on-one and becoming TRUE friends. 3) Expand your social life in other directions where the relationship is valued by both sides.
That’s how people I know are. It’s pins and needles kind of not something I want nor need.
I feel this. I always have to initiate