So, the sex over 40 sub is kind of dead. Is that because …

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1. I won’t vote being none of these choices apply. And I’m older than 40. 🥹

2. I think the over 40 crowd posts on the sex over 30 sub.

   My sex life in my 40s is way better than in my 30s so no, you are not dead sexually after 40! Especially women

3. Try r/sexover30, that includes us.

4. Maybe, just maybe…..people over 40 don’t need validation of their sex lives from complete strangers on the inter web? Your answer selections are telling of your mindset.

5. Or… that’s a very specific demographic and not as engaging as you might think. I find statistically the more you drill down into a demographic the less participation you get. Look up population pyramids and see how those in their 40s are far outweighed by other age groups. It varies by country.

   https://www.vedantu.com/biology/population-pyramid

   Best way to explain it is narrowing down to for every 10 posts you need 1000 people (this is simplified for an example). 20-30 has 5000, 30-40 has 4000, 40-50 has 3000, 50-60 has 2000, and so on. Collectively all ages equals 20,000. That means you can expect 200 posts. But 40-50 has 3000 so you can expect to hand 30 posts. So the weighted volume are far less than a sub that isn’t age specific.

   Since the sub says over 40, I would assume over 50 doesn’t feel like they belong in that sub. Also, if the chatter in the a non age sub can be 10 times higher, where are you going to post your question or comment? I think by narrowing to a specific age group it limits who is even able to participate and the lower volume drives people to participate in more active subs.

6. I’m over 50 and none of those is a valid choice for me at all.

7. Having great sex does not require posting about it online.

8. Sex is great married and in your 40s. You’ve already gained so many skills, confidence, the ability to comfortably communicate your needs. I can literally request specific stuff and have named my wife’s moves or strokes so she knows if I ask exactly what I want and vs versa.

   You also have a less traditional view of sex since you’ve had a lot of traditional sex. The traditional exchange oral have intercourse yeah it’s all good and still fun. But try telling someone in their 20s you exchange lopsided or one sided sex acts on purpose as the whole sexual episode and both are happy to do so, that you can still have sex multiple times a day as an older man you just refrain from getting off every time(20 year old men will see this as torturous blue balls and not even count it as sex).

   The fact that you know how to turn each other down playfully, can talk about anything, tell 20 year olds about mutual masturbation, or teasing orgasms out of each other instead of actual sex, I can say a lot has literally changed for the better since I was in my 20s.

9. I would want to add another possibility, people over 40 just have great sex but don’t need to talk about it on the internet. Less talking, more action 😉

10. I’m not sure what’s worse. People not being able to have fun with this or people thinking that sharing is only about validation.

    Is it really so strange for someone in their 40s having great sex wanting other people in our age group to also have great sex? On a daily basis, how many marriage threads are there about problems with sex?

11. How about people over 40 wouldn’t really subscribe to a sub like this? I know I wouldn’t? Why specifically sex after 40?

12. We’re too busy banging.

13. None of these options apply to me. I’m over 40 and my wife and I have a very fulfilling sex life.

14. Or maybe people over 40 are too busy having sex to worry about the sub.

15. I think the sex over 30 sub pulls plenty of the people who qualify for the sex over 40 sub so that probably has something to do with it.

16. 40 is over 30, and /r/SexOver30 is where those of us who feel /r/sex is too full of trolls and teenagers with basic questions hang out. In practice a large number of the regular posters in SexOver30 are in fact 40+.

17. I’m 43. Very sexually active and I’m not sex negative. I also don’t live with my partner and we are not married. Soon as I see him, my clothes are off. I don’t wait for him to initiate first. he ain’t the only one who wanna get his rocks off. ☺️

18. Haha, I’m 72, male, I love using Reddit and still enjoy sex. Maybe I’m just a dinosaur that likes technology.

19. How about: people over 40 are doing it and not talking about it

    I’m over 40. My sex life is great. If needed, I will discuss it with my partner (in private), and not with internet strangers.

20. I’m over 40, almost 50. I’m on reddit for entertainment, some times give advice in subs like this, and talk about work in the appropriate sub. Talking about my sex life just isn’t something I’d like to discuss with others. I have my limits and that is beyond it for me.

21. Sex in my 40s has been the best yet, honestly. I read a lot on here and wonder “why?” And “how?”

22. People over 40 don’t use reddit the same way you get people do

23. Got excited seeing your post then realized we discussed some stuff yesterday…there are at least two of us lurking the Interwebs, lol.

24. We come from a time of Fend For Yourselfishmess. It’s a magical adventure that takes place somewhere called IDoItForMyself.
    Nobody knows how we came to be in this often termed hell-scape, of a forgettable existence; but we forge ahead, ever silent. Ever vigilant

25. Just found out that sub exists. Happily married 20 years, mid-40s, healthy sex life with each other even when we are long distance (technology is wonderful!) so I have zero desire to waste time in that sub. 👌🏼