Ok I’ll try to be short here. I (25 F) have been sexting with a man (30M) for 6 months. We only had sex once like 5 months ago. Thing is he works in another country and he comes home 2-3 times a year, so it’s all long distance for now, but we are going to meet again soon. He is really attractive and I’d say he is a player. He is consistant with his texts with me, replies very fast and I know for sure he wants to fuck me again. Usually he texts first. I notice he is texting me more often, sometimes a few times a day, but he is most probably texting other women . He always tries to stick to the sex topic though, doesn’t express feelings. He doesn’t ask how i am, what my day was like, no good night/good morning texts.
Honestly his consistency made me kinda attached to him, I don’t express feelings too though. I try to lower my expectations, because I feel like I’m dealing with a player, but I can’t help it but wonder if there is a chance he might be catching feelings too and not expressing them through texts?
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A human can feel sexual desire for six months and not catch feelings. Some people tie sex and romance closely together, others don’t.
I’m a woman, and have had several sexual relationships where I didn’t develop feelings. Not every single person will fall for every person they have sex with.
Anything is possible, but to me, it doesn’t sound like there’s much reason to suspect that he’s catching feelings. If the convos are never more than just sex, then a sexting buddy and occasionall hook up is probably what he’s looking for.