So, I’ve given my bf like, 3, maybe 4 BJ’s now. The first time….oof. I jacked his shit up with my teeth. It was my first one so it wasn’t great. Lol. The 2nd time, he put my head upside down hanging off the bed, he loved it, the 3rd time, he did that again. The 4th time? I just sat up and went at him cause he has already gotten me off (or he thought he had…that’s another completely different issue. Lol) so I started and he seemed to like it. But he doesn’t moan. Like at all. He never moans. And the only way I knew he was close was when he told me. And he doesn’t make a bunch of noise when he “climaxes” either. Also, it took a loooong time it seemed like to get him to orgasm. I want to drive him crazy with need, I want him to want me to get him off, and I want him to love it. I want to give him the kinda pleasure he thinks about the next day. But the only way I know I’ve done well, is afterwards, he’s like pulling my head off of him, panting, and can’t hardly stand up. Lol. So I guess I do okay. He also said he likes his balls played with. How tf do you do that? Pull them? Rub them? Lick them? Any help here? Like, when he gets home tonight, I wanna rock this man’s world. Soooo. Any advice, suggestions? Lemme know. He’s very sexual but I can tell he holds back cause I’m not as sexual. But he’s so good to me, it’s time I show my appreciation. š Help! Any and ALL advice, tips, tricks welcome.
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There is no general rule that will make you great at sex with everyone. People have different tastes, different ways of expressing themselves, different boundaries etc. One thing that might rock the world of someone, might be a huge turn off for someone else. Also we don’t always express ourselves the same way. Sometimes we may be loud, sometimes we may be quiet but still cum.
The key to everything in relationships is communication. Just talk to him, express your will to satisfy him, while at the same time exploring yourself and what you like. Ask him how does he enjoy things more. There is nothing sexier than a partner who really cares about the pleasure of the other person. Even talking about it can really turn you on and be part of great foreplay.
The best way to be good at it is to really enjoy it., but you canāt force yourself to enjoy it. I always suggest mutual masturbation as a great way to learn about eachothers preferences, and then you just need to think about replicating the ways he jerks off and do that with your hand while also using your mouth mostly for lubrication. Blowjobs are mostly about the hands, itās hard to do with no hands and be good
I’d say you need to get an idea of what he likes so keep an eye on reactions.
Don’t just go straight in, spend some time licking the head, lick and gently suck his balls, run your tongue from between his balls tight up his cock to the tip, suck gently on the end and swirl your tongue around it. After all that he will be dying for you to suck him deep, go all the way down then each time you come up use your tongue around the head before going back down.
Get your hand all wet and use it at the base so your are kind of sucking and wanking him at the same time. Cup his balls. Stroke his thighs. Mostly just make sure you look like you are loving it.
Some guys arenāt vocal during sex, it doesnāt necessarily mean heās not enjoying himself if heās not making noise. If you need that feedback suggest to him that he make sounds when he likes something, that way you can know what to to in the future to please him. As for playing with his ballsā¦ just rub them gently, roll them around in your hand, squeeze them gentlyā¦ the key word is āgentleā they are very sensitive. Sometimes guys will like to have their balls squeezed hard but I wouldnāt do that unless he requests it specifically.
Every guy is different, but for my husband, my enthusiasm and excitement to do it is a big part of the whole thing. I smile and donāt treat it like a chore, I pay attention to his balls and perineum which is totally sensitive for most guys. If itās going on too long, I get on top of him in a 69ā¦ I tell him to do whatever he wants on me while I work on him, my goal isnāt to get off in the 69, itās to overstimulate his brain with ass and pussy in his face so he orgasms. I tell him I canāt wait to taste his cum and itās making me wet, feel how wet I am etc. Which works really well. Not gonna be the most romantic 5 or 10 minutes, but most guys want our crotch in their face while their dick is in our mouth.
I’m slightly above average length and girth. Getting teeth has been a pain (literally) but there are some techniques to where things can be accommodating.
Depending on how long his penis is and your hand size, you can wrap one or both hands on his shaft with only the tip of his penis in your mouth. This prevents you from gaging on it (which most people stop/pause giving head), the person may not get teeth, and your throat isn’t bruised/agitated by his penis.
You go up and down with your mouth while keeping your hand against your face. You can tighten the grip to make it more enjoyable while you lick/suck the tip. You may even get a second hand on the shaft or do a half grip (like index and middle finger wrap with the thumb).
You can twist the wrist while still going up and down with your hand and mouth. If you have two hands on his shaft, twist the wrists at the same time but in opposite directions to each other (one clockwise, the other counter clockwise and then reverse).
You could ask him what he means by having his balls played with. There is sucking, tugging, rubbing, cupping, etc. If you cup his balls try to be mindful of when his tentacles start to rise because this could indicate that he’s about to finish. The penis can also get thicker at this time making oral more difficult.
Curl your tongue over the tip to deflect the shot from hitting your tonsils. Continue to suck and lick the tip since this sensation of tickling continues for a while prolonging his enjoyment.
Make sure that the shaft is well lubricated during this technique (through spit or flavored lube). You could find out if he would ever want to have you milk the prostate while going down on him.
I try to stay very silent during intimacy because I want to hear my partner. I have been known to slightly thrust during oral which could inadvertently make the person choke/gag and pause to regain composure.
Before you start having sex, have a normal conversation about what he likes. Pish through the awkwardness and get him to share. But the primary variable in good blowjobs is enthusiasm, so you’re of to a good start. Good luck!
Good job! If you got him off you did well. As for the balls, everyone likes it different. I kinda tickle my guyās with my fingertips or I will lightly run my fingernails over them while I suck and that seems to take him over!