So, I’ve been struggling with cumming during sex for one year now. I had always thought I could cum from penetration only, but recently I’ve been playing with my rabbit vibrator and could not cum when I ‘removed’ the clit stimulator and only focused on vaginal stimulation. (Apparently I’ve always been also somehow stimulating the clit)
On the other hand, I often feel like I’m gonna pee or at least some kind of pressure in that area but it never develops or explodes or releases. I also should point out that after almost 1 hour of trying to stimulate my G spot nothing happens no matter how fast it’s stimulated (either by the toy or my bf). We’ve already tried putting the pressure on my lower tummy but for some reason it feels really uncomfortable for me (sometimes even hurts a bit, is it supposed to feel like this?).
Has anybody had similar experiences? Is there anything I could do or experiment with? (as a student can’t really afford expensive toys tho)
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When you’re first starting out, holding your favorite vibrator on your clitoris while he’s thrusting will amp up your pleasure. This is not cheating! In sex, all pleasure is good. The lower your performance anxiety, the easier it will be for you to transition into coming from intercourse alone, without a vibrator whenever you want to.
When first learning to come from penetration, doing orgasmic cross-training is helpful.
Cross-training is where you orgasm in a way that is easier, such as with a vibrator, while you’re doing the other way you want to climax, in this case, intercourse. This cross-training is what you do to cross the ‘gasm chasm.
Think a lot of women cant cum soley from internal pleasure, if it works with clit play too why change?
Textbook advice is to keep teasing your clit to cum, for now. The nerves from the clit can grow and expand deeper around the vagina. The more they grow, the better your odds of being able to have orgasms from more vagina-focused pleasures. It doesn’t always happen, but you’ll be doing what you can to grow your pleasure!
Tldr, normal, mix a vibe and something wet