So I’m F26 and due to mental health issues and insecurities I wasn’t intimate with anyone until a week ago. I met a guy, M25, on tinder and he is nice and knew I was a virgin and we were both looking for a FWB so we decided to give it a try. First time we met we made out and I went down on him. I was on my period so I was okay with him not giving me any pleasure but since then we have slept with each other three times and there has been zero focus on my pleasure.
Losing my virginity felt better than I thought it would, honestly it was very uneventful. Being penetrated feels nice but I havnt been near cumming. I’ve cummed plenty of times on my own but I very intrigued ro have someone else touch me etc.
I don’t know how to bring this up. Being a late bloomer and a larger girl I feel like I have to settle with what I got but I know that’s stupid. I know we haven’t been seeing each other for long at all but this past week I’ve felt like I’m a fleshlight haha! I’m honestly bored.
Should I try to have a conversation with him or just call it quits? He knows I’m not experienced so my friends think he should pay me more attention without me having to point it out. They were horrified when they found out he just put it in without any warmup on my part.
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Very simple, quit paying attention to your friends. The one thing people need to do is learn to communicate, use your words be direct with what you want. You want dick say it, you want head say it. That simple
Tell him what you want. And do it now.
Gotta set these expectations early on. I’d text him “tonight you’re gonna go down on me, I’m gonna finish in your mouth – and then I’m gonna do down on you, and you can finish in mine.”
If he doesn’t race over… you’ve got a dud who doesn’t eat out women and that’s a personal dealbreaker for me. Yep, a minority of women don’t care. But you’re here posting, so you do. I care too, it’s the only way I cum reliably and I don’t want to go 40 years without orgasms.
I suck dick, so he needs to eat me out. It’s a two way street.
Just look him in the eyes and say the following
“Eat my pussy”. Either he will or he won’t.
If he does great. If he don’t then you decide how that effect things
Tell him that he if wants pleasure for his cock then he has to get down and eat your box. Edit: tell him that you’re just like a stamp, you have to lick it before you stick it.
The fact that he hasn’t focused on your pleasure AT ALL in FOUR different hookups is a pretty bad sign tbh. If he cared about your pleasure at all, he would’ve at least asked about it and tried to do something.
The only way to get guys like this to hopefully stop being selfish someday is to stop seeing them and let them know exactly why.