I guess you can say that l’ve (F18) been talking to this guy (M18) with romantic intentions for almost six months now. I won’t go into too much detail, but a lot of problems surfaced during those few months which put a strain in our relationship. Additionally, we have drastically different goals in life after college that don’t seem like it’ll work if we were to enter a long-term relationship. After much talking, we decided to not to pursue the relationship and remain as friends. We were friends before we went the other route, so it doesn’t really feel as awkward. We share the same college clique and classes so we want to at least remain civil with each other. Honestly, things were going fine until a fee days ago. First mistake was answering each other’s video call requests. The next one was not ending the conversation sooner. Finally, succumbing to our hormones and sexting + jacking off in call together.
That was his first time but it wasn’t mine. We honestly don’t understand our feelings right but now I feel even more confused. He was the one who confirmed that we should move on from our relationship. Please send help. I’m not sure what to do moving forward.
TL;DR
I initiated a sext and steamy call with the guy I was supposed to move on from…now I don’t know what to do moving forward
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So this guy is now some form of friend-with-benefits?
Did you have a nice time? Then what are you worrying about?
You don’t need to “understand your feelings” if you can be mature about them and navigate the uncertainty without freaking out.
Sounds like he didn’t mean to breakup. You both want eachother, but know it’ll not work long term. Do you want to postpone the awful inevitable? (the REAL breakup) Sounds like you know you guys will break up sometime in the future and I can guarantee that if you stay together now that the future break up with hurt far worse than it’s hurting now. This is my experience.