Hi everyone,
Has anyone not put themselves out there to date for fear of not being able to do enough for a potential partner?
In my case (33, M, USA), I’m afraid I won’t be able to provide enough for her. I read/hear so many stories about couples struggling to pay rent/mortgages, losing jobs, dealing with student loans, etc. It worries me that being in that situation means I’ve failed (or am failing).
In essence, I begin to think there’s some tax bracket I need to reach to be able to date and have a good, stable relationship.
I’ll admit there is some cognitive dissonance because struggle and hardship are a part of life. At the same time, I think it might be better to struggle alone than with a girlfriend, wife, or family.
Has anyone else had these feelings, or am I way off-kilter?
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Yes
Yeah. One of the reasons my ex broke up with me is because he can visualize that he can’t provide for me and so tells me to find someone who’s financially stable.
Then take matters into your own hands.
Yess i think yes
Sometime things go wrong,sometimes you do and sometimes it happens with you.
So last point cut you are hollowed at end of any road .obviously for a emotional person these things do hurt a lot,so anxiety of things might go wrong again,it do refrains one from doing those things again that happened a while ago
Yes yes a million times yes anxiety hinders everything