So I’ve been wondering about this for a long, long time. I’m polygamous and looking for a casual partner, but I’m still looking for an emotional connection with the person. In my experience, most of the men I’ve encountered pressure me into having sex *immediately*, without any meaningful connection at all, and then get mad when I say no. They’re quick to drop me and tell me that I should have been grateful they even talked to me. They’re beyond cruel to me just because they think I ought to be so desperate.
Because of these experiences, I have pretty much resolved myself to being single and celibate until I find what I’m looking for. But I’m curious – is what I’m looking for even realistic? Does anyone else experience this? What are your thoughts?
P.S: I’m a fat woman, and if I see any “just lose weight” comments, I’m just going to roll my eyes and move on.
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Sex without emotional connection is just masterbating with someone else’s body
Like eating fast food because your starving just end up greasy and feeling hollow
I personally think what you’re looking for is very realistic even if you weren’t polyamorous. Men pressuring you into sex immediately is a bad sign as it means they aren’t trying to form a lasting bond. The sad thing is that upon finding out you’re polyamorous they might see you as someone who won’t want to build with them and casual to the them probably means friends with benefits. As someone who also looks to form that emotional bond first before jumping into anything sexual I completely get where you’re coming from. Letting guys you might want to date know upfront that no snu snu is going to happen before you’re comfortable with them is a must, not that you weren’t doing that. Despite all of that what you want is very realistic and you will find it. It’s gonna take some time, but don’t give up! I don’t know how helpful this is but me and my gf found each other on a plus size dating site called Wooplus. You’re beautiful, you’re worthy, and you’re deserving of everything any thinner woman has/wants. Your standards are good ones and you have no reason to be desperate. Love for us fat folks is real and a magical thing and I’m sure you’ll find it soon!