Hey I have Schizophrneia. I was sexually abused at a young age and it didn’t affect me until age 21. I was very good at sex before I had issues to work through and at age 35 I have a girlfriend who likes me a lot and I am such a healthy guy and so supportive the only area I need to approve is sex.
I’m exhausted from health and mental stuff but I want to get better at sex so I can meet my partner’s needs. We’re both willing to work through a lot of stuff and as long as we both are faithful we can get through anything.
So I know this post won’t get a lot of replies but if anyone epecially a girl can tell me how to research this stuff I am not going to ask female friends because I value proper communication. I’m meeting with a communication specialist and a lot of my communication problems are because I have Schizophrenia. So I am getting better God gave me a lot to deal with but I am the supportive one in the relationship. Go figure haha
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when asking this kind of things you’ll get some typical answers and that’s because honestly it’s the best way, things like asking your partner what works for them etc
no matter how good you are at sex you’ll always find that one person you could be with and suddenly you feel inexperienced again because you feel unable to pleasure her either at all or to the extent that you’re used to doing so easily with previous partners – simply because everyone is different. so the best way to become ‘good at sex’ with this specific partner is to learn how she likes to be touched, how you can turn her on, how you can feed into her fantasies etc
if the idea of performing acts a certain way then pausing and asking her if she’s enjoying it like that or wants you to switch it up (along with watching for reactions of course) makes you feel uncomfortable, you could also just use a variety of techniques during acts and tell her beforehand to squeeze your hand when she likes the specific method you’re performing, or have the conversation afterwards.
you can also ask her (or create a spontaneous content in which this happens) to masturbate whilst you watch or do other things to her whilst she does. this will give you the opportunity to watch specifically how she needs to be touched to climax. i also suggest asking her basic turn ons; again if you don’t like the idea of that conversation there is an app couples can get that shows you both cards and you swipe yes or no to being into the idea of it (ranges from basic acts to kinks to turn ons etc) and you don’t have to feel embarrassed at all either as it will only show which ones you’ve swiped yes to eachother IF you both match on it.
wish you the best of luck and it’s great you’re trying to improve at the end of the day effort is 90% if not more of what makes good sex