I am in a new relationship with someone (26M) and I am (30F). Last year I got out of a 10 year marriage so I feel very new to the dating world again. I met my now BF who’s an awesome guy. There’s been a few things that pop up and have me feeling weird and confused. To start off he admitted he saved photos of his ex, like the dirty ones. Of course being a girl, I had to look her up on Facebook and she’s this super cute skinny girl. I’ve noticed he’s very into skinny people and it makes me feel a tad off. Im not fat, but certainly not skinny either. They still talk to each other and I really try to not let it get to me. He’s assured me he could never go and date her again etcetc. I don’t want to be a jealous person by any means and if they have a good friendship I certainly don’t want to ruin that. I just want to see if anyone else has been through something similar with their significant other.
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>he admitted he saved photos of his ex, like the dirty ones.
He clearly misses his ex, at least having sex with her. He’s maintaining contact with her because he still has feelings for her. This is something you have no control over. If it bothers you now, it will continue to eat away at you in the long run turning toxic.
I don’t like when people are friends with their ex either. But at least he was honest in saying that he is. If a guy im dating is friends with an ex I feel like there’s something hidden going on/unfinished business. Ugh hate it, especially if they don’t have anything tying them together like kids or being family friends.
Being friends: cool.
Saving nudes: run.