Introducing a sex toy into our marriage.. right move?

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1. Toys are better with someone else

2. Sex toys are a man’s best friend and closest ally. But personally I’d never buy anything sexual before talking about it with my partner, but each relationship is different.

3. Absolutely, toys are a man’s best friend!

   Your post here is a good start for discussion. Focus on wanting to give her all the pleasure humanly possible. Maybe start with a wand (literally our favorite out of dozens of toys) that isn’t so sexual looking but packs a punch.

4. Sex toys are great. I think it’s nice you are trying to surprise her and spice things up. If it does get awkward just work through it. There is definitely a lot of pros to sex toys and no cons that I can personally think of. Once yall wrap your heads around it you’ll be good to go! 🙂

5. Wait… you’ve gone 10 years without any toys? 😳

6. Wife and I talking about random stuff and subject of toys came up. She had a very strict upbringing and was afraid to get one as she wasn’t sure how I’d react.

   I can never wait for our sex marathons as I look forward to making her cum multiple times using them.

   We started off with a basic vibrator and through dirty talk whilst using it on her, I got to know more of what toys she would like and not like. I’ve recently upgraded her to the womanizer which has given her mind blowing orgasm definitely recommend it.

7. I’m shocked that sex toys have never been involved thus far.

8. In my opinion, if it may help, we have bought different sex toys some have been surprise, some have been planned, for surprise and sex in general I think communication is fundamental, so my approach (had been) would be to speak about the sex toys get some Intel from your wife and the surprise would be the one you chose, you know her, you know what she like and she trust you so after talking about it that will build some positive tension or excitement toward the surprise toy you will bring to action.

   Hope it help or at least give ideas, and keep working for your happy marriage my friend

9. I think this one is ask first. This place is massively more pro toy than my life experiences suggest is the norm.

10. Much fun

11. Always, but talk to her first

12. Sex toys are incredible for a marriage.

    If you can let go of the idea that every single orgasm in your partner must be created by your genitals – or you at all – you can relax and just have fun.

    My wife and I have incredible sessions where I’ll use her wand on her (or she will use it on herself with me there) as an opening round to sex. We go back and forth, have a fucking great time, leave the bed in a mess. And we’ve been married 27 years.

13. Toys are great! You should definitely talk to her first unless you know exactly what kind of vibrator and clit stimulation she likes

14. Sex toys are great fun, but every woman is different with what works for them. I would discuss it with her beforehand. Even then you might end up trying several different toys before you find something that she prefers.

15. Mt friend down under..…… I got a vibrator for my wife several years and was afraid she would think I’m a freaky kink. After using it in our fk sessions she wanted to try new toys. Now we have a $hit ton for f different vibrators, dildos, and she just ordered a strap on! GO FOR IT!!!

16. > I could speak to her about a sex toy but also i feel like sometimes she likes surprises so i thought i would buy one then suggest one night that we give a toy a go,

    Have a conversation about sex toys and what might seem fun and interesting or wild and crazy. Then buy one of the ones she thinks is fun (that you also think might be fun) and surprise her with it in a few months.

17. Get her a hitachi, watch her squirt. Enjoy

18. F48 been married 19 years and I have a nice collection of sex toys. Many of them I bought on my own. And a few we bought together at the sex shop. Typically I use them on my own. My husband and I have used them together during sexy time.

19. You can try it first and see if your wife likes it. I guess she would like it. Don’t underestimate the power of sex toys, be willing to try them.

20. Small wand is pretty safe. It is not obvious what it does, but it will get her quickly to orgasm. Use it while you fuck her. Also for oral, you can hold against your jaw to make it more intense for her. It will quickly peak her interest in other toys.

    Go Amazon and find the highest rated personal massage wand. Should be easy to find.

21. Yes! I love when my partner buys me toys. Though don’t spend a ton…start inexpensive so she doesn’t feel as much pressure if she doesn’t love it. There are many toys out there and sometimes it can take a bit to find the kinds you like. It can be a fun adventure for you guys to try out different stuff.

22. Wow 10 years marriage and never used sex toys, I think it’s time to test it out. 😀 Hehe but seriously, toys can be a great addition to a relationship. Toys can open up for many new pleasures for both of you and it’s something new you can explore together and have lots of fun with.

    I have introduced toys to many lovers and partners who haven’t used them before and never had anything but very very positive reactions. My favorite way to introduce it is to either give as a gift during a naughty date night or surprise them with a visit to a sex shop and pick out a toy or two together.

    If she likes surprises then why not get her a toy for your next date night as a little surprise present. If she hasn’t used toys before I would suggest something like a nice (not too big) vibrator or perhaps a vibrator egg or clit sucker since she loves clit play. Then use it slowly and together, and make sure to tell her how much you love it when she’s using the toy as some women are scared to use toys because they think the man might get jealous or feel left out.

23. Do it!!! My best ex brought me a toy for us to use and it was the best thing anyone has ever did for me. He saw I wasn’t getting enough pleasure and wanted me to get more. The fact you even care is so wholesome!!!

24. Getting a clit sucker made our sex life exponentially better. I wish I hadn’t waited 24 years to get one. I was so relieved my husband was not intimidated by it. He no longer had to rub my clit for 45 minutes nearly injuring himself every time we screwed to get me off. My orgasms are absolutely mind blowing now. I can cum innumerable times and they are crazy intense. If your wife is anything like me, it will be the best thing you’ve ever done for your marriage and sex life. Do it! I recommend the Bellessa Boutique Pebble but buy the $5 warranty because the charger easily breaks (the wire disconnects after about a year). We have sex a lot more often now because it’s not so difficult for me to cum and not so much work for him.

25. First and foremost, a sex toy can help to spice things up in the bedroom. When you’ve been with the same partner for a long time, it’s easy to fall into a routine and lose that sense of excitement and adventure. A sex toy can help to break up that monotony and introduce new sensations and experiences into your sex life.
    But it’s not just about the physical pleasure. Introducing a sex toy into your marriage can also open up new lines of communication between you and your partner. By discussing your desires and preferences, you’ll deepen your emotional connection and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.
    Of course, it’s important to approach this new experience with an open mind and a willingness to experiment. Start with something simple and easy to use, like a bullet vibrator or a couples’ ring. Be sure to communicate openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t, and don’t be afraid to try new things.
    At the end of the day, introducing a sex toy into your marriage can be a fun and exciting way to explore new aspects of your sexuality and strengthen your bond with your partner. So why not give it a try? Check out our selection of high-quality sex toys to find the perfect addition to your love life.