i have asked my partner if trying new things were okay and they agreed i’ll admit that i haven’t specified what because we do free use. everything we’ve tried they seem to like except cum denial but i don’t know for sure because they never say anything. i usually start with fingering them, a handjob or oral but when they’re close if they’re not doing what i want them to i stop. (i want them to be vocal because it helps me get off, i don’t need to be touched physically and i feel my needs aren’t being met because without it they go straight to fingering or sex without foreplay) but they seem very upset. is there anyway i can bring this up without upsetting