What do you do to make your partner feel loved/special

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1. Make sure my partner feels like she can talk about whatever’s on her mind and try to solve problems together.

   Try to do activities with her, even if I don’t necessarily like that activity (like painting). Also, talk about her interests.

   If I know they had a bad or stressful day, take her out for a snack or something.

   I do them because I want to. If I didn’t care about somebody enough to help them through their problems, why would I date them? If I didn’t enjoy doing stuff with them, why are we together? I would want them to help me on a bad day, so why wouldn’t I help them? Plus, if you don’t enjoy seeing your partner happy, you need to rethink relationships.

2. Even though my love language is sweet words, I can’t actually do it due to a mental block thing I need working on lol so instead, I resort to acts of service. I’ll cook her something tasty, buy special gifts or plan fun couple activites. I’m also always there in terms of emotional support 🙂

   And yeah I do it cuz I want to. If making her happy isn’t on my schedule, then I wouldn’t be with her.

3. This is totally a love languages thing so if you don’t know what that is you need to learn about it and figure out your partner’s language. Acts of Service don’t do much for me personally but they seem to push my spouse’s buttons so I bring her coffee in bed in the mornings. I’ve also taken over all the cooking and try to both make the food interesting and to serve it in an appealing way (nice table setting, light some candles, dim the lights, soft music, etc).

4. She really likes the spa experience. But doesn’t really like going because of how much it cost. So I bought a bunch of the bath bombs massage oils and took a few classes to give her the home treatment. Although the massages may not be entirely selfless.

   Otherwise if she’s having a shit day or stressed out I usually just make some extra time for cuddles and grill some guilty pleasures and letting her know I’m here for her and listening to her vent. Maybe picking up some extra housework but she tends to stress clean so it’s usually not really needed.

   And I guess I was asked to do them in a way. But definitely because I want to. She takes care of me every single day. Definitely don’t think a cheeseburger and a back rub is a big ask in return.

5. Love languages (worth googling if you’re not familiar) are a thing.

   The ones I exhibit to my partner the most are “quality time” and “acts of service”. I take on random little tasks that’ll make her life easier (chores, cooking, etc).

   For other people, with different love languages, it’d be different – whether they’re men or women.

6. Bring her coffee in bed most mornings. There’s other things but this is the most consistent one

7. She doesn’t know it but when I cook I always try to give her the best plate of food out of the 2. I take the one that is sub-par quality over the other. Throwing her towel in the dryer while she is showering so that it’s warm when she gets out is also one that I like to do.