Oral to get hard

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1. It’s foreplay which most people need at least a little bit of sometimes so it’s fine

2. I think it’s a completely reasonable thing to ask for during foreplay. In fact, I’d want my partner to communicate what turns them on if I’m not already doing something that they like.

3. I don’t speak for other women but I can say there was often a tiny twinge of insecurity when my partner needed oral to get hard near the beginning of our relationship, but I learned over time how normal that is and since I like doing it, it was never a problem. At times he’s able to get hard right away or by looking at/touching me, but there are a lot factors that influence his ability to get hard and some nights he just needs some extra help. Essentially, I think if you explained that to your partner they would understand and be happy to help ❤️

4. In his 20s he could get hard just from seeing me naked or me holding him. As he approaches 40, sometimes he needs a few licks down there to get hard. It’s not the end of the world. His doc has prescribed him low dose Cialis, and that’s super helpful if we’ve got a dirty weekend planned and he wants his cock to act like he’s a 19 year old again. No sucking or prep required.

5. While some people can get hard or get wet without needing any kind of physical stimulation, for many other people, they need some level of physical stimuli in order to get aroused. Totally normal.

   That doesn’t really answer your question though. There are some people who will feel confused, even insecure, by that kind of request, but it’s usually because they’re operating from a point of ignorance in thinking that people can just get hard or get wet without being played with first.

   Experienced people shouldn’t have a problem with that request at all, because they know better

6. About half of the time my husband needs oral. It’s perfectly fine and natural. If you are meeting tender dates straight up tell them you need oral first. It’s good to set up expectations and rules. Like she can tell you her needs and hard nos. That way there are no miscommunications.

7. I would be happy to do that and would also be happy that he’s comfortable communicating what works for him

8. Speaking for myself, it is a massive turn on taking my bfs flaccid penis in my mouth and getting him hard while I lick/blow him. There’s something about the idea of knowing that it is ENTIRELY because of what I’m doing that he’s getting hard/turned on, gets me super wet

9. Any woman who’d take offense to that is immature tbh

   Men need and deserve foreplay just as much as women do

10. Ask yourself the other way around. If a woman you are sleeping with isn’t wet from the get go and needs physical stimulation/oral. Would you feel bad about it? I don’t think so.

    Personally I’ve never been the other way, I always needed physical stimulation. Absolutely normal, nothing to feel bad about.