Sure I have some awkward moments, but I also have a good amount of interactions that I felt went well. However in retrospect it feels like people just don’t like me because people will usually text the other members of my friend group before they reach out to me. I wonder what I do or say that makes them hesitant to talk to interact with me.
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Do you ever have that feeling yourself? That you meet someone and you have an “okay” conversation (nothing obviously wrong with it), but at the same time you don’t feel drawn to the person, wouldn’t want to get in touch with them again.
If you’ve ever had that feeling, what would you say is the reason why?
As for yourself, I’m going to guess it isn’t anything that you’re saying, might just be something about your ‘vibe’ that is office. Four traits that are very well accepted are what I call ECHO: Enthusiasm, Confidence, Humor & Optimism. Most people don’t have all four, but if you can develop two of those, that’ll be a big step forward.
Good luck!
How do you know they don’t like you?
Are there other possibilities why they might act like that?
I tend to assume people don’t like me without really having a good reason to justify that belief
Do you even like yourself? Or do you dislike yourself for some reason and that shapes how you think others view you?
Something that I tend to think about to sorta help with these thoughts is asking yourself how you would feel reaching out to someone new versus reaching out to someone you have known for awhile. I personally have trouble asking someone new if they would like to go hang out, but I have an easier time asking someone I’ve known instead. It makes it easier to just ask a closer friend to hang out, then ask the other person to join once the plans have been made so it gets less awkward. Then after a few times doing that, you should feel a bit more comfortable directly asking the other person. Sometimes it isn’t that they don’t like you, just that not everyone can jump straight into a conversation with someone new.
I mean, based just on the info in this post… there’s nothing here to suggest ppl don’t like you. This probs has more to do with them having more of a relationship with other ppl in the group than it does with you AT MOST… if its not as simple as you reading in to them happening to text someone else first about something and the order of texting actually being totally meaningless and random.
The only way anyone could tell you is if you recorded one of your interactions.
I used to feel this way a lot. What helped me was pretending they’re really good friends of mine and thinking of a person or memory that makes me really happy while I talk to them to give off good vibes.
Without watching the interactions it’s difficult to say.
Maybe they feel as if they have more in common with the other members.
Maybe they feel as if they feel more comfortable with other members(again, tying back to more in common)🤷♀️