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so I’m part of a social group where I could put a face to the name of each individual. However, there are people I am more close with than others. And then out of the closer people there are people I got closer by hanging out with. There’s only one particular person in the group that no matter what I do on my end I never really get the same vibe back. He never asks me questions about my self (even though I take interest to get to know his), etc.
The other folks that I maybe extra a few pleasantries with I have zero relationship with. However, because we are all in the same friend group I would always congrat them if they did well at their job like promotion or pass an entrance exam, getting engaged/married, etc. I always wish them a happy birthday as well because, well, everyone does it!
It was my birthday recently and of course the people I feel close with (even those that don’t directly hang out with me) , they would wish me a happy birthday to my surprise. The folks that I haven’t really gotten to know or talked to I kinda expected at least a wish happy birthday but it didn’t hurt as bad. Granted the next day these people pop out of the woodworks in the text and continue whatever new conversation as if nothing happen. I am sure they all saw the text but rather not send that wish birthday text 🙁
so going back to that one particular person- I had wished him a happy birthday on his birthday (even text him the very next morning 12:01am). He didn’t respond back to the text ( I figured it was because we saw eachother that day and there was no need). It would still be nice to get text back.
Anyways fast forward to my birthday he was radio silent the whole day. He sees the group chat (I’m sure), go the whole day without wishing me. Now, I feel like I was trying so hard to form a ambicale relationship with this guy and he just throws it on my face.
1. are there people you just don’t vibe with even if you make effort to get to know this person and am always kind ?
2) why don’t the people who are in the same friend group but don’t really have a relationship with you can’t find it in their heart to still wish me a happy birthday?
am I overthinking?