Me and my girlfriend (both 22) were talking and we both think our sex isn’t great. She thinks our sex is bad, for me (she’s the first girl I had sex with so I can’t compare) it’s okey but just mostly a bit awkward because I (and sometimes she) don’t know what to do, then we just sit on the bed with awkward silence, maybe kiss a bit but them eventually I (we) are out of the mood. We talked a lot but we are both unsure of what to do to improve. We talked about our wants and we’re both pretty similar (includes, blindfold, tied, rough), need help, we still have sex regularly but feels awkward to do it when it’s always very strange. Any ideas, tipps or advice that could help us? We’re already together for 1 year and it’s feels so late to start this discussion to improve sex. A bit sad that we never tried to improve before.
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It is never late to improve a relationship 🙂
Do you both masturbate? Have you tried each showing the other what feels good to you while you do it to yourself? Or, even just lying together while you pleasure yourselves?
How about dirty talk? I get the sense that in part it may be the silence and not knowing what to say that could be contributing to the problem? Could you each come up with hot things you’d love to hear from the other, that play into fantasies and turn-ons that you have?
So if it’s silent in the room, put music on. Also, you can practice your sex noises. They don’t have to be grunts or groans, just heavy breathing is hot. And once you start making noise it will give her permission to as well.
Normally wouldn’t recommend this but maybe try to drink 1 or 2 alcoholic beverages to be less in your heads? Just a few times to kickstart having less awkward sex.