I am not the most experienced person when it comes to intimacy. For some context, I had a first boyfriend who I never came with. I usually take a really long time to cum by myself (not a bad thing). With my current relationship I have been really confused honestly. I feel great and we are super healthy but when he makes me cum if feels so different. I don’t even know how to describe it. It’s like there’s less build and it can just keep rolling through me for as a long as he touches me. When I cum by myself I can feel the build, I cum, and I relax much too sensitive to continue. I’m worried that this isn’t normal for some reason. I also can cum very quickly after 1.25 years with him. It just differs so heavily. Is this normal?
I also shake a lot when I cum. Like full body almost spasms, I’m very embarrassed about it. I feel like it’s unattractive and not normal. My Ex once stopped touching me when I was close because I was shaking which is why I never came once with him lol
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It sounds perfectly normal to me. It’s definitely a different experience to orgasm with a partner, compared to orgasming on your own. It sounds like the added arousal and perhaps the unknown of a partner’s touch (compared to knowing what you are going to do to yourself) is making you orgasm faster and in a new way compared your usual routine. Truly, do not worry about this at all. Just try to be in the moment, and give yourself room to enjoy that pleasure. Would you judge your partner if they shook when they orgasmed? No. So give yourself the same love and freedom to enjoy the moment that you’d give your partner.
Sounds like you’re having orgasms from clitoral stimulation. “he is hitting your g spot” lol that is all. Your reaction is different because it’s a different type of orgasm.
try doing yourself on him. you love him so its alright, just for a while let go and use him as a toy. enjoy yourself.
👏 I just want to say it’s actually great. I am not man but I think that bringing you to orgasm is the best achievement he can get for his hard work. You should definetely enjoy it instead of worry about how you look during it.
Every orgasm is different and there are several types of them – clitoral, vaginal, anal, mixed/blended, nipple, G-spot, spontaneous/imagery induced, multiple orgasm. So your body reactions are different, too. Some are slow and spreading with release, some are intense and quick, you can shake, squirm, cry and it’s allright. If you look at statistics, you are really blessed that you can have orgasm and that you met partner who is able to provide them to you 😉
I’M THE SAME WAY !!!
I usually just masturbate with a little vibrator and the orgasm from that is shorter and more spasm-y, and I can’t continue after because I’m so sensitive. Whereas when I’m having sex or receiving head I tense up and start shaking, and then I can keep going afterward.
I think maybe it’s because with a vibrator I’m just focusing on the clit, but during sex it’s more of a full body experience. This is just a guess.
Dang, finding this post makes me feel better too. We’re not alone !