GF left sthg important for work needed that day at BFs place, they live on opposite ends, 1.5hrs-1hr45 door to door. GF wakes at 6am to travel to collect the item, make a pit stop at BF to collect at 8:30am and travel back to arrive in time for work at 9am. sends a text message notifying BF knowing usually he wakes at 8:45AM and by chance sees message. requests BF to help out, meet GF at station, this is a 15minute walk down a long stretch of road and take one stop on the light train. GF travels the full 98% and to B and back to work, but asks B to help 2% to walk down their part of road and take one stop. BF happens to wake early, sees the message. BF aware this is important but refuses to wake up and leave house with 5-10 mins of notice, not doing much that day until 1:30pm. Gf changes asks if Bf can just START walking down the road (instead of walking full way to station and taking one stop)she has work at 9am too but can be slightly late not too much. is it acceptable – Bf refuses to leave house and start walking down thinks is unreasonable due to short notice even though not doing much that day, regardless of urgency and importance of the item to GF needed that day. Instead decides to wait at home for GF to arrive fully and not lift a finger. GF travels 2 hours already whilst BF was asleep and refused to painlessly walk 5mins. At rush hour on a work day everyone is already awake before 8:45am. GF knows it was last minute, but given the importance she was glad BF read the message by chance and was hoping he at least willing to just move for 5mins to hand the item over and help
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This took a few reads to understand with all the abbreviations and the large block of text.
Yes it’s a shit move on the boyfriends part if he can’t be fucked to help his partner out knowing how important the item is to her and he has nothing else on, last minute or not. Sounds like girlfriend shouldn’t bother travelling such a long distance for someone who can’t be bothered doing the bare minimum for her and should move on.
How does she travel that LONG of a distance for an IMPORTANT item that requires PRECISE timing, without calling the BF on the phone the night before to set it up? She’s relying on a text message being seen? That makes zero sense.
And sure, he should’ve helped her out, but there’s a severe lack of effective communication here.
Lots of missing information here such as how serious is the relationship. If it’s a casual situation I would be remaining in bed especially if I had reminded the other person to take the important thing with them. There also might be issues for one of them (social anxiety, waking aggressively, etc). That being said, if y’all are calling each other BF/GF then we can assume it’s the first step to something special. Except that it’s not (based on these generalizations) because there’s no cooperation and care in the actions of the BF. Like are you sure he’s telling others you’re his GF because it doesn’t sound like he cares much about the relationship if he’s not willing to help out in a pinch.
Think about this-if he can’t go the extra distance for an important work thing what’s he going to do when the bad stuff comes along like illness or a kid? 🚩🚩🚩