Making friends is terrifying!

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1. Just be interested in them. Also you want to be an interesting and well rounded person. When I talk to someone I talk about what they like and how they think and feel. I usually can relate to it because I have a lot of interest and know about a lot of different topics. If someone wants to talk about anime or business or picking up girls or video games, movies, books, philosophy, traveling, aliens or whatever, I dabble in just about any topic

2. You have to face your fears and genuinely connect with them in real life. You need to invite them to a real life activity or a face to face conversation. Ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.