Casual arrangements have never been for me. Got my heart broken last year and decided to f it. Wanted a physical connection to help me move on. Met a guy I became attracted to. It helped. We have only hooked up once so far. Tried to “booty call” each other several times ever since but it’s unfortunate our schedules NEVER line up.
He would call me past midnight when I’m already tucked in bed for an early morning. He would call me that he is in my neighbourhood when I’m still stuck at work. I like spontaneity but in reality only advance notice works.
This guy either suck at communicating or he doesn’t want to with me. Other days he would ask me my plans for the night and when I respond (I have plans), he doesn’t follow up and disappears. I could actually meet him after my evening plans because I’m horny for him and ready to compromise.
Me on the other hand, I’d give him advance notice and respectfully ask in the day. Voila, of course he has plans. I get that he has a much busier work schedule than mine but I’m not sure how we’re gonna keep this arrangement alive if he just wants me at his convenience (which is always an unfortunate timing for me) and never willing to compromise. I’d compromise if I can work around my schedule if an advance notice is given but it is always random that he hits me up out of nowhere.
I know one huge possibility could be that he has other booty calls and I’m probably placed on the backburner. Hence this post. I’m on the short end of the stick here.
I want to keep being casual with this guy because I’m already attracted to him. I know the smarter thing to do is to seek out other casual arrangements too if I just want to make sure I get laid when I want to and avoid being disappointed by him.
But no, I don’t want to sleep around with different guys when I can just get laid by one. Casual is not my thing, I’ve never wanted to do casual. A series of (unfortunate) events last year led me to this place with this guy.
Also, I can’t just sleep with anyone I need that attraction which doesn’t come by easily for me. I know I’ve made my own bed and now I shall lie in it. But help?
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I didn’t intend to offend you, we had so much fun
He seems to have no feelings for you or regard to your feelings based on what you’ve communicated to him. Either keep up your agreement or make a new agreement from very clear conversation
Go find Mr. Right elsewhere. Although I understand you wanted this to help you out from your past relationship, this isn’t working at all and I think it should prove to you that you’d be better opening yourself for a relationship where in theory both are clear on what they want.