I am utterly exhausted by my relative. She is always complaining about something and has a lot of mental health issues and I’ve tried hard to be a good family member and friend to her. I’ve put up with this for 15 years and I’m tired of it. She will not get help, after 10 years of listening i decided to once in awhile sprinkle solutions to help her out because it’s the same stuff over and over again. I believe she has the same disability as i do (adhd) so i told her to see her doctor to help more with RSD (rejection sensitivity) and so much more. She just also love bombs too? I’ll be listening to her and she just goes on and on and to the point where I’m creeped out and uncomfortable. How can i help her without alienating her or draining myself further. I am burnt out by her. She will love bomb me when i give a solution or ignore me for days when i tell her a little more firmly and then come back to complain about really stupid stuff.
A typical convo with her will be weird when she compliments, saying “you’re so pretty/cool/sweet/etc!!!” And when i say thanks, she keeps going, and i mean like 30 compliments rapid-fired my way literally 30!
It’s as if when i give her a solution she thinks I’m being driven away so she compliments me but it’s having the opposite effect.
I’m literally feeling sick to my stomach writing this because I’m so drained and uncomfortable.