Is getting married at 35 still as beautiful as 25?

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1. I got married at 42 and it was probably more amazing than doing it when I was younger

2. Why wouldn’t it be? My second wedding was exactly what I wanted. The first one was taken over by my mom as I was pretty young.

   My second marriage is also much better.

3. Depends on what you mean by beautiful. My wife and I both had “spare no expense” weddings in our mid/late 20s to our ex-spouses. That obviously didn’t work out so well. We’ve been remarried for a decade and it was much less expensive, but seems to be working a LOT better.

   The nice thing is that as you get older, your parents and extended family become less of a fixture. You’re an adult and don’t have to deal with all the “mother of the bride” crap anymore……which really isn’t the point of a wedding anyway. Nor do you have to deal with the father of the bride impressing his business colleagues with the booze served at the reception. 🙂

4. Yes. Why wouldn’t it be??

   It’s you who can make it more special than anything.

   We had our civil ceremony in Jan this year and I am 41 and he 44. It was a great day. Only closest family and friends.

   This coming October we are going to have a big reception for 150 guests, with live band and DJ. We have people coming to Ireland from all around the world and the most important: I am wearing my costume made beautiful wedding dress.

   My husband is going to Chicago with some friends for a late stag and he couldn’t be happier

   We are all super excited for every single thing.

   You are the only one who can make your wedding special. If you don’t think it’s special and make it special noone will.

5. Depends. Do you see marriage as a partnership with someone want to be with for the rest of your life? If so, yes. But if you see marriage as an achievement badge, no.

6. I was your exact age when I started feeling pressure to settle down. I knew I wanted kids and so I set myself on a mission to find a husband. My criteria for a husband was pretty basic, had a job, wasn’t crazy, had a spark with that person, liked them enough to spend a lot of time with them. I never stopped to ask the questions of what kind of spouse would he be, what kind of parent, what kind of member of a community would he be?

   So I married a guy when I was 34, had a baby at 36 and another at 37. 8 years later, I am kicking myself that I didn’t ask for more from a potential spouse. I didn’t dig deep into his values, and how he lives his life. I was just happy I found someone fun to marry.

   Don’t rush marriage. If you are female and you want to have kids, honestly, freeze your eggs now and decide to have them when you want to.

   Spend the time to find someone who truly values you and understands you. And ask the same from them. If you can find that, then it doesn’t matter when you get married, you will be happier in the long run.

7. Of course!!

8. I don’t think how old you are affects how magical it is. I think later in life weddings more often feel less magical because it’s a second or third marriage (and I imagine it’ll be the most magical the first time you’ve done it, because it’s brand new and you haven’t been jaded by forever not always actually meaning forever).

   I didn’t have a wedding (we got married over Zoom) but it was super magical because it was with the love of my life and the enormity of us promising to love each other forever was HUGE. If we don’t work out I don’t see myself remarrying, but if I did I don’t think it could be nearly as magical even if the second go-round was a big fairytale wedding.

9. Wtf would age have to do with how “beautiful” getting married is?

10. Marrying the person you love and couldn’t imagine life without will be beautiful no matter the age. 25, 35, 75. When you find your person, it is always beautiful.

11. Uhm, yes? Why wouldn’t it be?

12. Married the most amazing woman when we were both 36. Our wedding is still the best party I’ve ever been to.

13. I have to ad, this question is really funny for me because in my country it’s much more common to marry at 35 and not at 25.

14. I’ve been to weddings of people of various ages. I never thought about the age of the people getting married.

15. I can’t speak for the entire united states but in the deep south like Alabama, Mississippi, etc people (about 75%) love to bash people that str single after 25. I see it more common with older church people.

16. I married at 26 and it was wonderful. I’m now 45 and my marriage is not only wonderful but better than ever. I think there’s a sense of adventure to everything you do when younger that isn’t quite as strong as when you’re older, but I doubt that makes things any more or less beautiful.

17. If you marry the right person it is

18. I think a few of us are puzzled by this post. What are you “catching up” on? What are your own personal goals? Do you know anyone in a miserable marriage? Do you like yourself?

19. Age has nothing to do with how “beautiful” getting married is. Especially since, ideally, the point is to be married for a long time. So if you get married at 25, hopefully you’ll still be married at 35, 45…95, etc.

    This post just seems pretty ageist. No one is dried up or pitiful or whatever by not getting married until 35 or 55 or 75. Getting married can be a beautiful experience at any age, especially when the goal is *being* married rather than just *getting* married.

20. Live life at your own rate. Trying to “catch up” is more likely to put you further back in the long run. Have you ever heard “Slow down, we’re in a hurry.”? Decisions and actions made in haste tend to be poor ones that require do-overs. Far better to do it right the first time. The largest sign of maturity is learning to disregard what busybodies think.

21. It depends on how you define beautiful. You will probably have more life experience and more income under your belt at 35, so choosing someone compatible may be more important. If you haven’t had kids yet, then know that female fertility falls after 35 and goes over a cliff at 40.