I love them, there are some days where it’s hard for me to be sociable/recognise that I’m not sociable?

How do I be more sociable? As well as how do I not be as clingy to my boyfriend in public?

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  2. As a shy person myself, I find that not having much to talk about can come across cold or unsociable to people that are more extroverted. Two things I find that help with this is: 1) continuously practicing to get better at small talk in different social situations. 2) working on self confidence to not feel uncomfortable when conversation doesn’t flow initially easily.

    One book that helps with small talk is ‘How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks and Tips for Big Success in Relationships’ by Leil Lowndes. As a male, I find the tips in this book to be more tailored for female social interactions but can also be applied for male readers as well. I find that remembering even some of the tips in this book can take the pressure off of me by giving me some tactics to use, making me feel more relaxed in unfamiliar social situations.

    I imagine your clingy-ness in public is the result of you feeling uncomfortable with how to navigate some unfamiliar social situations. So you feel more comfortable to stick with your boyfriend than make small talk and engage with others. Socializing with others takes practice and I beleive the more you practice the easier it will become and the more comfortable you will feel. You got this!!!

  3. Do you agree with your boyfriend’s perception of you? What does he mean by sociable? Is this something that bothers his parents that they’ve brought up with him or something he thinks bothers them? Has he made any specific suggestions about things he saw that gave him this impression?

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