What is going on in my sex life? I am 21 years old and the sex in my relationship is painfully boring. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have only ever been sexual with each other. The last time we had good sex was in February when we were gone away on vacation in Cuba, he got super drunk and screwed me for 2 hours straight and did everything possible to me that I could possibly think of. It was honestly the best sex ever if I’m being honest. Apparently that’s dead now because now we are back to the same boring thing where we hardly touch each other and when he does touch me it’s the same boring thing. I always just end up using my vibrator to finish! What can I do to spice things up!
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It’s possible your partner may be dealing with low hormones. How is his sex drive? It sounds like he is not making sure your needs are being met. If that’s the case, it may just be selfish behavior.
Have you communicated your wants/desires with him? Tell him what you want? Maybe have some suggestions ready to spice it up (e.g. handcuffs, role play ideas, or certain positions you want to try.)
Also keep in mind “desire” or “sex drive” works differently for different people. He might not have “low” desire; he might just have less spontaneous of a desire. And more of a responsive desire where the mood needs to be right (like Cuba). Do some google searching on spontaneous vs responsive desire to see if that sounds right. That frame switch can work wonders if it really is the problem.
That sounds like an easy problem to fix. Move to Cuba