Hi,I’ll try to be short, but my main problem linked to social skills seems to be, at the moment, that I’m afraid to approach people (except in professional-linked situations).
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For example, I struggle to approach women to try to have a nice conversation by giving them a compliment (whether I am interested in them or not), I struggle to approach men who organised a Meetup meeting I am subscribed to, even though I have a gut feeling it’s the right guy (and it was indeed the right guy in both Meetups I went to). But I have no (or little) problem asking a shop employee for help or making a call for a professional thing (I am currently looking for a job, so that may be calling an employer back to set an interview), even though I prefer not to.It’s getting better as time goes by, but it’s still hard. I even impress people with some of the things I manage to do or my friends give me great feedback and basically tell me I evolved in a good way.
I think the key is to think about nothing, but I would like some tips, maybe some challenges (asking strangers for the time or an address is not challenging for me, if that’s the question). I also would like to practice to a variety of strangers but I don’t really know what to do. What I struggle the most with is the very first step, which is the approach. Then, talking is ok. I used to be paralised by fear but now it’s more that I lose time because I don’t go talk to them even though I know I can do it and it’s not that hard.
I’m pretty sure I know the theory, but lack the practice.
If you have other questions I can answer them.
Thanks!