When something bad happens to someone from my family or friend, sometimes I can’t stop myself from laughing at them even if I feel guilty. For example when a friend gets bullied or when they tell me one of their family members is dead. The fact that it’s inappropriate to laugh in those moments makes me laugh more. I don’t wanna stay like this please help
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Check out this article on [nervous laughter](https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/nervous-laughter#why-we-nervous-laugh) and see if it resonates with you.
This has happened to me. A few years ago a close friends father died and their family lived in my families neighborhood so we were all friendly with one another. I was genuinely sad when I got the news, but when I told my mother her reaction made me laugh a lot and I felt so awkward and bad.
I do know I work with the elderly and deal with death frequently and have developed a darker sense of humor as a coping mechanism, as many in hospital, emergency, or military jobs often do. It doesn’t excuse my inappropriate action there, but some people will react and cope in different ways and hopefully people you love and love you will understand.
Beyond that, I suggest also looking into aspects of stoicism. I certainly won’t argue to try to change your sense of humor, be you. But proper breathing techniques and so on might help you at least not react in an inappropriate way even if an odd or funny thought pops in your head. Try to read your physiology better in those moments and keep it somewhat controlled at the right times.
I mean, I actually don’t have great advice as I’ve done the same as you, but I’ve also gotten better over time at not having an immediate inappropriate reaction in these times. I’m just winging it here, but hope it helps some!