What to say on the phone with a girl?

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1. Don’t talk for hours on a phone. The next step is to invite this girl to a face to face conversation or a real life activity. You have to genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.

2. Prepare for it. Throughout the day, when a thought comes into your mind, a story, a question, write it down instead of texting her. Then when there is a moment of no talking , you can refer to your list.

3. If it was me I’d instead invite her out to a fun activity (bowling, board games, rock climbing or even just a walk). That way, you have something to distract you and you’re not forced to keep the conversation flowing a 100% of the time.

   You can prepare by thinking about subjects to ask her about before you meet up. Things she likes, family, where she’s going in life etc.