(24f)I have been dealing with light vaginal bleeding since I started having sex 4 years ago. I’ve been tested for STD tests have all come back negative multiple times and other tests were ran last year too but I n ver told the doctor about this cuz I’m embarrassed. Sometimes my lower abdomen will hurt slightly or even cramp that doesn’t last very long after sex and then I’ll notice very light blood in my discharge. It’s dark red so I am pretty sure it isn’t menstrual. My boyfriend’s penis is about 8 inches and he also took my virginity. This usually only happens after we’ve had sex when I’m in doggy style. I’ve been concerned since it first happened but he tells me it’s nothing to worry about. I’m too embarrassed to ask anyone else. Can anyone help me with this?
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Go to the doctor. They have seen/heard worse things and they are here for things like this.
Are you relaxed/aroused/turned on/wet? Is it rough sex?
If you’re not relaxed/turned on there’s a chance that he’s causing microtears – which would be exacerbated by rough sex.
My closest friend in the world is an Obgyn. She is amazing. TELL YOUR DOCTOR.
Everyday I hear stories of patients who had a complaint and just didn’t tell the doctor for months or years. Then my friend shakes her head and says “It’s a common problem and has a simple solution but the patient was too embarrassed.”
She loves when a patient says “I have something embarrassing to tell you”. She gets excited hoping it’s something new. It’s never new anymore. She’s literally seen everything. Your doctor is there to help you. I suggest you see a younger woman Ob/gyn as they get a lot of training in sex issues. If you don’t like the response of one, see a second one. Find one you can share everything with. My friend just wants her patients healthy and happy.
On a side note, I’ve had a gf that had exactly your response to sex. Turns out she has a very sensitive cervix. So when we had sex I was hammering her cervix, causing it to bleed a little and her to cramp after. We had to experiment with postions and I had to stay in control so I didn’t hurt her. One thing that helped was to put a pillow under her hips. This angled her so my stroke was shorter. It had the added benefit of forcing me harder against her g-spot. So win-win. It made sex enjoyable for her in missionary. Standing sex worked well though, against a wall. We could never do doggystyle or folding her legs up again, but that was fine. I wanted her to want sex with me. So decreasing her pain was worth it. We just had to communicate a lot about exactly what she was feeling. And I’ll be honest, my brain stops working at top speed when I’m inside a woman. But my core drive is to see her enjoy herself. So she had to take control and guide me in what felt good for HER. Once I learned what worked for her I was able to simple “stay in bounds”.
First, go to the doctor or tell them that at the next visit!
Second: that was a problem I had myself after longer/rougher Sex. Maybe 2-3 drops of blood mixed with my own body liquids. Talked with my doctor about that, nothing to worry about, just light bleeding, I am young, he is more then average size, we like it rough and I (overall) have a problem to even get wet. So for me, in the end, it was nothing bad or wrong with me. Still: talk to them if you are unsure!
8 inches is significantly bigger than average, use lots of lube so he doesn’t tear you.
Big dick for sure