Reposting this to my throwaway since I’m too embarassed to post this on my main.
Anyways,
I’m 16 years old, I moved out to another state about a year and some months ago. I have a good friend group consisting of 5 people back where I lived. While I do consider myself shy, I can still manage talking to anyone. Now, in the new state where I lived it, my social skills dropped. I can’t talk straight to people, and my hands start to shake a lot when I talk to someone. I do have some friends here, but I very rarely talk to them, and I usually just sit alone at lunch, while I don’t mind being alone since I still talk to my old friends on Discord. Sometimes It bothers me being lonely, so yeah. How can I make friends again?
Thanks in advance.
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Getting to the bottom of that anxiety and figuring out why you feel the way you do will give you an idea of where to start. It can be harder just to do things if you don’t understand why you feel the way you do.
I feel this way, being older and being around less people my age contributes but I also struggle with anxiety. When I make an effort to talk to more people it slowly becomes easier. Most of my friends are still people I met online, and my best friend always went to a different school (met in daycare/prek) so I also wasn’t as worried about making irl friends, but now I wish I did try harder. I spent most of my time being self conscious and trying to get out of situations that made me anxious. I think it can be normal to not have an instant friendship where you both feel entirely comfortable. Not everyone agrees on things and some people worry that disagreeing could possibly upset the other but disagreements are normal. It’s good to hear other perspectives.
It’s not always easy. Sorry if this was long winded. Therapy can help and if it’s really bad there’s also medication for social anxiety. Don’t give up.