Basically i have a vagina, i have tried sex few times, different people, different situation which two of the men i had sex with I actually fancied.
Anyway, I had sex yesterday with same person I had relation 4 other times too and I really like him too but I don’t enjoy it at all.
I was recommended before to use vibrator on my clit while having penetration, i tried it yesterday but again I didn’t enjoy it, not even one bit. I was faking moans for him so he could finish soon and be done with it.
The “pressure” of penetration was uncomfortable and dull. I could “feel” him in and out but that was it. There was nothing enjoyable about it. Vibrator felt nothing like when i masturbate, I couldn’t cum even after he was finished and i was alone.
I don’t think i like to be penetrated. I don’t like being licked or flicked either.
I actually think I don’t like anything about sex. I get horny but I don’t know what i want anymore. I definitely don’t want to try sex anymore….
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Are you on some medication, or has this situation always been the same? Asexuality is one form of sexuality, after all.
If you don’t mind me asking, do you have some trauma?
If you can afford it, try out a fuck machine. If you like the fuck machine but don’t like sex, then you can narrow down the problem.
I recommend the Hismith, the new version has app control which is nice to try different vibe patterns. Personally I just use the cabled controller myself.
I think you should focus on masturbation and figure out what gets you off, then get a partner in the mix. Communication is the key to a healthy sex life. Good luck!
I (33 F) didn’t enjoy sex when I was younger. It did nothing for me, but I did a pretty good job pretending it was enjoyable. I lost my virginity when I was 16. I was roughly 29 when I started enjoying sex.
I might try to pick up a copy of the book Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. A great deal of sexual desire and response happens in your brain. It sounds to me like you may not be able to relax enough to enjoy the pleasure of foreplay and intercourse. The book has some ideas that might help.