I love when my partner goes in me during anal sex, but I can’t get hard, unless I start jerking myself. I see so many videos of guys staying rock hard when taking it, but I can’t. I always shrink at first and then have to stimulate myself to cum. Ideally, I want to cum through anal penetration alone. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? I’m open to any questions that could help gauge my issue more thoroughly.
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So when i first started getting into anal, I read a whole lot of stuff about it first and anal pleasure for men is as variable as penetrative sex for women. Some people just can’t have a p-spot orgasm, some can’t do it without masterbating, some can do it with just anal.
You might not be able to get off from just anal, but try experimenting with stuff and see if anything adds more pleasure than anything else. For me I cant get off on just anal alone I need to masterbate too but once I get close I don’t need to masterbate anymore, the anal stimulation is enough to get me to finish.
Don’t judge yourself off videos of other guys. It is very normal to get soft while getting anal. It doesn’t happen everytime for me, but it makes sense, receiving anal takes the focus off the dick and is a different type of pleasure.
As for p-spot orgasms, there is lore aplenty about it. From my understanding it is best not to obsess over, and just move towards pleasure. It can help to not touch your dick, because apparently it helps reprogram your orgasm. But I kinda think do what feels good and so I usually spend some time enjoying and finding ways to build waves of anal and prostate pleasure, then climaxing with hands on dick.