I was supposed to play football with my friend John and his friends today. He had invited me six days ago and I accepted, looking forward to playing again. However, six hours before the game, John sent me a message apologizing and saying that his other friends had decided to play with a unique team they had before I joined them. I felt disrespected, especially since I had arranged my schedule to make time for the game.
I didn’t want to confront John about this over the phone, so I ended up going to his house with my mother. John’s mother is my mom’s sister. I didn’t want to bring up the issue in front of our moms, so I just acted normally.
I really enjoy playing football and want to play every week, but at the same time, I feel disrespected that they cancelled on me at the last minute after I had made the effort to rearrange my schedule.
I’m not sure what to do next. Should I confront John about how I feel or just let it go? I would appreciate any advice on how to handle this situation.
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I would bring it up to him, but it may benefit you to not consider the interaction as a “confrontation”
I would talk about how you feel about what happened, without being accusatory or making any comment about him. Focus on your experience of the event
The goal being to communicate yourself out into the world in a healthy way. The goal isn’t for them to apologize. That would be great if they do, but them doing anything in particular is not in your control. You can only control your actions. And your actions should be making sure that this doesn’t fester in your mind and you do something positive with this emotional energy