hi, so i was talking with a coworker and she was saying how she doesn’t have work friends and she never hangs out with anymore. i felt bad for her, and wondered why would that be the case? i found her cool overall. i initiated plans to hang out with her in person, and she said she would be down for whenever.
i ended up getting her number, and we texted back and forth over makeup and skin care since we both bound over that. i ended up asking her last week if she’s free and wants to hang out. we decided on wednesday, and i tried asking her what she wants to do exactly, eat or shop? i asked her if she’s been to a certain restaurant and i got no response.
i ended up texting her again bc i saw she was hanging out with a guy coworker, she apologized for not responding. i said it’s fine, have fun. she didn’t responded, and it’s been one week. no confirmation what-so-ever. the “hang out” was suppose to be tomorrow. i never reached out to her because i should she would have reached out by now.
am i wrong for not reaching out again? isn’t the ball in her court? i find her behavior odd considering she said no one hangs out with her outside of work, but she can hang out with a guy coworker. she was exciting when we talked about it :/
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Yeah, some people like to whine how they’re so bored or lonely or no one’s available to hang out, as a way of getting pity invites. I don’t think they’re doing it consciously, but it does make them feel wanted. Not saying it’s guaranteed the case here, but it could be.
If there’s no actual plan and confirmation, then there’s no hang out. And no, you’re not wrong for not reaching out again.