I (25F) am kind of that “sexually liberated” woman who has alot of sex with people from tinder etc., it’s how I choose to live.
The thing is, sex for me means satisfaction, meanwhile I am not always satisfied after it. How should I approach it to make it maximum pleasure for myself each time I do it?
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Are you always having orgasm?
Start playing with your clit during penetration
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I am F26
I’m just gonna asume you are hetero so it’s easier to write for me
Learn as much about your own pleasure as possible and then tell men in a dominant way what to do in bed.
Learn how to masturbate and orgasm only using your hand.
If you are able to do that the guy you sleep with can basically just fuck you and you do the rest with your hand and it’s an easy orgasm
Also remember what you think about just before you come when you masturbate so you can use these thoughts as a kickstarter to come while having sex.
Try not to be shy in bed and push yourself to feel comftorable to tell guys what you want.
Take enough time for foreplay
Always have at least one orgasm before he puts your dick in you and at lest one while fucking
Sry for my english
Just write me if i can help you with more tips
Sex gets better after doing it with the same person and building a connection for a while.
Work on yourself, get to know your body and take it slow with someone you actually like
Start using some sex toys during sex play! 😉👌
You won’t get any pleasure if you dont know what you want. So that’s the first step.
Is it certain physical acts? Is it dirty talk? Role play?
Next step is to communicate this to your partners.
And next step is to not be with them again if they ignore your requests and ignore your “no”s
And it’s possible you will never like casual sex. I dont. I get NOTHING out of it.
So learn what you like and want. And pursue that till you find it
This is not a realistic expectation if you’re sleeping with new people who you don’t have rapport with and who have no reason to be invested in your pleasure and orgasm.
Just because *you* have the goal of satisfaction after sex all the time doesn’t mean the people you’re hooking up with share that value or goal. They may very well not give a shit. It’s not a secret that many people who use apps for sex are doing so to get themselves off, not to give a woman the night of her life and devote themselves to being a vehicle for her satisfaction. If that’s what you want, you may want to reevaluate your strategy for selecting sexual partners.
Ultimately, most people will not satisfy you and will not intuitively know how if you sleep with them once or twice. Additionally, hookups are rarely invested in your pleasure. You might get lucky and find someone you really mesh well with who approaches sex in the same way, but that’s not the norm and it’s not a realistic expectation to have.
You can either involve toys all the time once you figure out what toys will reliably get you off. Or approach partner selection differently. And also, change your expectations. Unless you find the thrill of sleeping with new people intrinsically satisfying, then keep doing what you’re doing. But if you want to have great orgasms and thrilling intimacy, app hookups are going to be a poor way to accomplish that goal. Your success rate will likely be astonishingly low.
IME the best way to accomplish the latter goal is find a partner who you have great chemistry with and who you’re sexually compatible with and can be open/ explorative with. Or just masturbate and explore on your own with toys.