Partner suggested this. She (20F) wants even more sub and dom from me (25m). We already try it time to time but now it’s strictly dom and sub play. Shes horny 24/7 We get rough with choking ,degradation, and CNC but now she wants more. Any new ideas ?

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  1. * Make her wear her collar and nothing else during certain hours of the day. (Raise the thermostat.)

    * Make her pick out 2 outfits every morning and choose which one she wears.

    * Make her serve as your footrest while watching TV for a (brief!) period each day.

    * Make her wear a (safe, comfortable!) plug when you go out for dinner or movie.

    * Keep your cock in her throat for a few minutes each day.

    * Order her to prepare a snack or drink for you. If it takes too long or falls short of perfection, punish her with spanking.

    * Use her throat and crotch (external) as hand warmers.

    * Tie her to a chair, with her legs spread, as eye candy. Add a blindfold and some nipple weights if she’s into that.

    * While you’re on the couch, make her ride you. Either without movement or slowly enough that it’s difficult and teasing for her. If she fails, punish her.

    * When she’s at work or school, order her to go to the restroom and send nudes. Try not to interfere at important times though.

    * Make her ask for permission to get up from the couch or out of the bed. Be generous most of the time and make her earn it other times.

    * Make her read erotica she likes out loud while you use some toys on her. If she stumbles over her words or reads too slowly, punish her.

    * Use hand gestures and one-word commands to order her into different positions. Leave her there for a minute. Try it outside the house when no one’s around.

    * Press her up against a wall or bend her over the bed and “arrest” her. Make up a completely ridiculous charge while you feel her up or cuff her. Try to make her laugh and moan simultaneously.

    * Come up with a list of degrading names and try them one by one between spanks. Get feedback later on which ones she likes.

    * Use those names in public on occasion when no one’s in earshot. Whispering “Hey, Fucktoy, can you go grab some eggs?” in her ear can be surprisingly effective.

    * Replace “Yeah” or “Okay” with “Yes, sir”. Use this sparingly; if it becomes habit it will happen at an inopportune time.

    * Ask about sleep sex.

    * Practice some wrestling moves on her. Just follow a YouTube video or something. Add some grabs and strikes of your own.

    * Turn her on, tie her up thoroughly, enter her, and do not move. Avoid pressing against her clit. If she starts begging, choke or slap her.

  2. I think you probably need more specialist advice than this sub can provide. Two things I think in particular you need to think through are

    – if you’re taking your roleplaying outside of the bedroom what methods will you use to delineate when you are in character and when you are out of character? Time out of character is important to provide a safe and caring environment for aftercare and to ensure your dom/sub sexual play doesn’t bleed over into inequality within the relationship.
    – given that it’s not appropriate to involve other people non consensually in your kinks how do you ensure that your outside of the bedroom play isn’t noticeable to others?

    If you have good answers to those questions then more or less anything you’re both into should work. A few ideas

    – wearing a discreet day collar and/or various forms of ties/plugs/clamps/body jewellery underneath day clothes. Could even go as far as chastity belts/cages if that’s your thing
    – make the time between your sessions a constant exercise in ramping up the anticipation for the next session. You can mostly do this through SMSs
    – bet on everything: sports you watch, how movies you see will end or how many times a certain character will say a certain phrase, games you play … everything. Sub gets a reward/avoids a punishment if they win, has to pay a devious forfeit if they lose
    – do sexy but non sexual things together – go dancing, work out together (martial arts sparring/padwork is a lot of fun), go swimming – with the express understanding of going home afterwards for a heavy session. It will add a lot of fun sexual tension to the activity.
    – go to snm sex parties and fetish nights together. You don’t have to play, you can just soak up the atmosphere, take in the sights and sounds, collect some ideas, and then head back home together.
    – use the sub as furniture, eat food off of them
    – extended roleplay: like go off grid with camping equipment, give them several hours head start, then hunt them

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