Do men really prefer eye contact during a blowjob? And more importantly why? I don’t really understand the appeal. Can someone please enlighten me?

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  1. It’s intimate. The eyes are expressive: the pupils dilate during emotional moments. If you look him in the eyes, it’s vulnerable.

    For a lot of men, that intersects with a feeling of dominance that’s a huge turn-on.

  2. Have your partner look up at you while eating you out and see if that helps you get it

  3. I’m indifferent to it honestly. I like the occasional check in, but after a while I think it’s just weird.

  5. It depends how they feel about their partner. I love my partner so I love it when she looks up at me and smiles or winks occasionally during a BJ

  6. People are different. I like a good bit of eye contact during intimacy, bjs included. We don’t have to have a staring contest the whole time, but some eye contact keeps me feeling connected to my partner. Lots of other reasons people like it, and many others have reasons for not liking it. Men, like women, aren’t all the same.

  7. I enjoy intermittent eye contact during. Staring is just uncomfortable, but if she’s not looking at me at all, I don’t feel as connected to my partner. Her looking up at me is a little wordless check-in that we’re both enjoying ourselves and focused on each other.

  8. Eyes tell the truth about whether you’re enjoying giving. Especially during climax.

  9. I don’t like it, I feel too much pressure to look back and can’t enjoy the feeling.

  10. I love eye contact while while giving my man a b.j.,there is a reason why he calls me his sexy little vixen!

  11. It’s the intimacy of it to me. When I look down and see my partner looking into my eyes it’s almost enough to make me unload right then.

  12. I enjoy each sexual act as a way to connect with my partner. Eye contact intensifies that connection.

  13. I’ll look when the dick isn’t in my mouth, but if it is? I feel like I’m going cross-eyed and feel super unattractive. I don’t understand how people expect this like at all

  14. That can be the difference between a good BJ and a perfect BJ imo of course.. idk something about eye contact just shoots it over the roof..???!?! Can’t really explain it lol

  15. It’s intimate and it really drives home the feeling that another human being is there doing something naughty (and even gross) just to make you feel good.

  16. Dunno why. Somethings defy explanation. It’s definitely hot. It’ll be easier for her if he’s laying back on his bed

  17. Yes. Because it’s just hot as fuck. Why? I don’t know, it’s just hot.

  18. It conveys connection. Looking someone in the eyes is intimate in itself. Couple that with the fact that your dick is in their mouth, it feels very special

    Also I’d imagine for the one giving head it can be fun to watch your partners reaction

  19. Because it’s sexy as hell that’s why. You don’t have to do it the whole time but it is really sexy

  20. The occasional glance up a lot of men find very sexy. It’s a way of showing to them you’re super into it.

  21. Personally I like making eye contact while I’m giving a blowjob. I like seeing how good I make him feel

  22. It’s a psychological thing. A knowing. When you make eye contact while doing it.. it’s like you’re telling him you want to be doing this. You want him in you

  25. It’s super affectionate and loving. It says “I think you’re wonderful” especially if she is my gf. There’s also a whole thing about large eyes and neoteny. Look it up. Fascinating

  26. Yes, very hot for most guys. I’m not sure why. You know how some things really turn you on, but you don’t know why, or never when think about it? That’s the best explanation I have.

  27. Eye contact to me basically communicates that she wants to see me enjoying what she’s doing. So she’s not doing it out of obligation, she’s not focusing on the end goal, she’s doing it for me. Plus, eyes are sexy.

  28. Based off the comments, maybe I’m an outlier because I hate it.

    But I don’t care for eye contact in sex (or in general).

  30. Ot’s 10/10. Also, sometimes I struggle to finish, but if my girl starts moaning I am done. I’ve never told her that, and don’t know if she has noticed, but goddamn.

  31. Your face shows your pleasure and that drive them crazy. The eyes are so important

  33. I love when my fiancé gives me eye contact. The connection the both of us share with each other drives me insane. I also finger her while she’s going down on me.

    The same concept with a male looking up at a woman whenever you’re going down on them.

    I know my fiancé loves when I make eye contact with her.

  34. Not something I ever thought to ask for but when I got it I melted lmao.

    The eyes are vastly intimate & wildly seductive by nature. It establishes connection to make eye contact in a moment of already-great pleasure.

    It’s empowering to feel good & it’s empowering to know you’re making someone else feel good, & gazing into each other’s eyes only heightens that experience.

  35. not constantly, sometimes during the bj. check in to see if she is enjoying it as well, and while looking at her he might moan and that’s a turn on for girls.

  36. Feels like she is communicating to me “you like this don’t you big boy?” Men are very visual creatures.

  37. What I also wonder for real, don’t men think we look dumb? Like our face looks deformed cuz the dick is in the mouth and the eyes look odd too, cuz when looking up, you can’t turn your head upwards, tongue is alway out, face is wet and sloppy etc. Is that view attractive???😅 Feel so self conscious about this

  39. I want eye contact to watch your expressions while making me hard. You reaction to tasting pre cum and finally watch to see how you handle the oral load you’ll get in your mouth.

  40. I like knowing that you’re enjoying the moment just as much as I am; that you’re getting just as much pleasure from pleasing me as I do from pleasing you.

    Eye contact is a great way for that to be communicated, especially when you can’t exactly communicate with words when your mouth is full xD

    But it matters a lot to me that this is something you also enjoy, because if you don’t – if it’s just a “task” that needs to be completed – then I may as well do it on my own as I don’t want my enjoyment to come at the cost of your displeasure.

  41. Once, on a first date, she invited me to her place and I resisted but then gave in. A drink or two later and after a good while on her couch making out, we moved to her bedroom.

    She unenthusiastically began giving me oral sex then began dragging her teeth over me, painfully. I stopped her and said hey if you’re not into it that’s ok I understand first date and all… and moved to get up to get dressed and leave. I mean it hurt and it was not an accident.

    She gripped my arm and pulled me back to bed and said her last was always wanting only bj and she got to hate it.

    I said ok well that’s him and this is me.

    One thing and another and we still made love but I could not resist pulling out so I didn’t fill her and she was unhappy because apparently that ended her last orgasm early…she had several hard intense orgasms prior to that point.

    It did not work out overall and the lesson learned for me is that no eye contact at all during oral is a really bad sign. Every time since then I end it if there’s no eye contact.

    She went on to badmouth me, though admitting she had her best orgasms ever during our sex she could not get past the last one being interrupted.

    Afik she still badmouths me, more than twenty years later.

  44. I don’t know about prefer. I don’t really care for it, but don’t mind it if she looks at me while going at it once in a while for like a second or so. There’s also something sexy when she just looks up, and smiles while my dick is in her mouth. It’s cute.

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