Hello folks,
I have a long-time friend who, unfortunately, increasingly disappoints me. I don’t know if it’s always been like this or if I’m just noticing it more and more. Every time we talk about a topic, I have the feeling that nothing comes back to what I said. Either I don’t get a reaction at all, or it gets talked about. But never is my situation addressed. This ensures that I have less and less desire and energy to seek contact with him or to tell him something. I just have the feeling that it then disappears in nowhere anyway. Currently, I do not actively contact him. In between he writes to me and asks how I’m doing, without actually responding to me or I’m just ghosted at some point. I don’t quite know how to deal with it. I actually like being friends with him, but the friendship doesn’t feel fulfilling to me anymore.
Do you guys have any advice? I don’t know if I should bring it up, since I don’t really want to tryharden a friendship. On the other hand, it would be kind of a shame.
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If you are still interested in trying to remain their friends, you should talk about it. Hopefully they understand and would be willing to make some changes but also know they might try but not enough of it.
Long time ago, I addressed something to my friend, they understood how I felt and also acknowledged that it was an issue of theirs so they were willing to try their best to change that. I was hopeful but I never seen much changes so sometimes I would readdress it, was fed some excuses I considered were kinda BS. I realize things may never change especially since it would continue stress me out. I ended up deciding to let things go, I would keep them added but I would not reach out anymore and they haven’t either. It was definitely a one-sided friendship.