ok SO… i gave my bf head for the first time the other day and he didn’t finish. it was my first time ever giving head, and his first time ever receiving. i thought i was doing everything right, i had some idea of what to do and had watched videos etc. but he didn’t cum! we were making out for a while before and super into it? what is wrong? am i not doing it good enough ?? HELP!
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The best thing you can do is talk to him about it. Chances are he really enjoyed it but can only get off in specific ways. Try new things and ask what he likes as you go along. It doesn’t need to be complicated, just communicate
If it was his first time receiving,even if he’s had sex before, he could have been so nervous and maybe even a little scared(it’s a very vulnerable position for a guy to be in) that his body simply didn’t cooperate
I’m 46 and have only cum from oral a dozen times in my life. It can be very hard for some men.
How do you go from “I suck at giving head” to “my boyfriend is sus” ?
If it was yours and his first time doing head the odds of him cumming just from that is extremely low lol and calling him sus over it is just horrible
Making a guy cum from oral is hard as fuck. It takes a long time and a lot of effort. I always think of giving a BJ as foreplay to sex, but if you aren’t having sex yet then maybe next you could try 69’ing
I guess start by talking and asking him how he likes it
I’ve been with my man for 17+ years, the only way he can cum is by his own hand. Lemme tell ya, had a real hard time realizing that it wasn’t me. Now I enjoy myself when he goes down on me and/or, I climb on top
Men go limp mid-sex all the time and it’s almost never because of anything that’s actually happening in that room.
It’s usually because of:
– tiredness
– medications
– drugs/alcohol
– distracted thoughts
– day to day stress
– general performance anxiety
The best thing you can do is not take it personally at all and not make a big deal out of it. Instead, change both your position and activity for a few minutes so he can “reset” before trying again. So if he goes limp during missionary, try giving him a bj while he lays down instead. If he goes limp while laying down for a bj, have him sit up, and sit on his lap and make out while he plays with your tits, maybe grind a little. If he seems embarrassed, reassure him and brush it off to continue enthusiastic foreplay. Even if he can’t get himself to cooperate during that session, there’s plenty of other things you guys can do to have a good time. Also, guys can often still cum while semi-flaccid if it’s a matter of them just being tired, as long as they’re interested.
The more you or he makes a big deal over it, the more his anxiety will cause it to be uncooperative. If you take it personally, his guilt will put pressure on him to perform which will cause performance anxiety. It’s a cycle you want to avoid!