Is it possible to make fully fledged friends through hobbies?

2 comments

1. A weekly meeting is actually pretty good when it comes to ‘regularity.’ The key is to strike up consistent conversations with them (whether brief or longer), be sure to greet them when you see them, say goodbye as you’re leaving and wish them a good week.

   When you’ve developed enough of a rapport then it’s time to INVITE them to do something with you OUTSIDE the place where you know them from. (the hobby meeting) That’s how friendships are born.

2. I am wondering this too.

   I am in university, but it’s a small group and we see each other 1-2 times a week.

   I think it would be enough. But most of the people are working full time “on the side” and have a partner, not even living in the same city, and much more. Most people are busy and not interested in making friends, even though they are nice. So I have not found any friend there, no matter how hard I tried.

   Just one small group of four found themselves, because they all do the same sport together.

   Thus, I think it is enough (see sport group). But:

   1. you have to share what you like, your interests etc., so fitting people can bond with you;
   2. the other person/people actually has/have to want making friends (not like my busy class mates)
   3. you actually need to find a fitting activity. I struggle with this as well. Most activities other than sport feel like a date

   So in summary: I think it’s enough, because if you actually go through those 3 steps, you meet with the people outside the “automatic meetup” anyways.

   And even though you already do a hobby together – I think you need to go onto the next level and meet outside the place and time, where you already meet up with them and “everyone and no one”